Let me precursor this with the following:
FMIL has been a thorn in my side since she started showing her true colors about two years ago. I understand that because I am marrying her only child, who just so happens to be a male, that I have to deal with her. I also understand that because I have a daughter by her son, that she is forever in my life for as long as she lives. I get all that. Most of the time, I know how to handle her, but sometimes......sometimes, I just really need to know that I am not crazy...or that I AM crazy and I need to listen to her. I can admit when I am wrong.
We are having an outdoor ceremony and reception. The reception takes place at a different park from the ceremony, but is being held under their huge pavillion. I already mentioned that we will probably rent a tent just in case it rains for the ceremony. However, I had also thought that, if its not a huge downpour, we can move to the reception venu and have the wedding under the pavillion. FI and I talked about this and he said, yes, that's a great idea.
In comes FMIL......who has paid for a few things for the wedding (mostly decorations for DIY projects....which we are very grateful for and has been a big help with that) who sent me an e-mail this morning telling me that I/we (FI & I) need to book an indoor venue incase we have, and I quote, "Gale force winds the day of your wedding....It is Missouri in April...You know how unpredictable the weather is...What if it snows?"
I have not responded to her email because I am trying to get all the sass out of my system before doing so, in all honesty. Ladies, is this REALLY necessary? This is not in our budget. I booked both parks because it was cheap and beautiful. If we book another venue as a back up, we don't get that money back if we don't use it. Would it be perfectly fine to move the ceremony to the pavillion at the reception location if it rains? (Yes, I will put that on the invites.) Is she correct in her thinking? Am I being crazy?
HELP!
EDITED TO ADD THIS:
Ladies, I do understand that she has some say, that's not what I am bitching about. What I am bitching about is a few weeks ago, our plans were perfectly fine and now they aren't. Nothing I do or say is right to her and I know they never will be.
You know what....we should have just went to the damn courthouse like everyone else wanted us to. I should have just sold my dress, forgot about havnig a wedding that I thought we would enjoy, and gone to the courthouse.
This so isn't worth it.