Honey Fund

reese511

Has anyone used it? 

i am unclear how i register for things.  do i just pick whatever i want and estimate the cost...then actually BOOK it when all the $$ comes in?  or do i have to actually book something....then get reimbursed?  i tried looking on the site....but there isnt a really clear explanation as to how it actually works.

thanks so much!

mariaNryan

I really dont know how that is used.... I was sooo confused too... But, if you literally want people to pay towards your honeymoon then I would go through a travel agent... this is what I am trying to do figure everything out but i am having such a hard time deciding everything

Danes983

We are using our TA. And actually FI cousin is using a TA as well. Basically the way it works is that they money people gives you just comes off the total of what you will owe. My final payment is due 1 month before my wedding, so I am hoping the shower is about that time too. I am really hoping for this gift so FI can do some excursions with the extra $

reese511

Danes...how do you tell your guests about it?  is there some sort of online way to give gifts?  i dont want to literally ask people for money, you know?

Heather822

I think there is something very shady about it.... as with 99.99% of the honeymoon registries out there. Your guests *think* they are getting you a couple's massage, but really honeyfund just dumps money into a paypal account for you, and you could then use the cash for anything you want.

I am just not a fan of honeymoon registries.

reese511

Heather:  this one is actually different.  the Giver chooses what they want to give you...then print out the "certificate" and then just give you a check w/ that certificate.  so the honey fund doesnt actually handle any of the money.  it goes directly from the gift giver to us.  it is baically a nicer way to ask for cash/checks.  and the giver is actually checking things off the registry so you can keep track of what you've been given, etc.

i just dont get the registry process at all.

Danes983

For us our TA gave us cards to put inside the Inviations just like you would get from BBB or Macys. Or your girls can place in on the right hand side of your shower invitations. The Bride and Groom to be are registered at:
Bla bla bla

Some people dont like this, but I hate to say it some people dont like buying shower gifts or putting in the effort. This is pretty much effortless and easy.

Reilly626

Watch out they keep a percentage- get a card from your travel agent.

reese511

Reilly: as i said in PP....the site does not handle ANY of the money.  it just keeps track of what people select to "pay for".  your guests send/give you the checks or cash directly with a print out from the site. 

melissa82

So it's just a pretend registry to ask for cash? People basically use it to print out a piece of paper saying, "Use this check for a massage"? That's kinda strange, no?

reese511

i dont know if i'd call it "strange."  its better than having anyone take a percentage of your gifts...and its better than asking people for money for our honeymoon, which i woudl NEVER do.

the site keeps track of everything and it breaks things out...
For example....lets say your airfare was $1000....the site can break it down in any increament you want.  so it can  be you need 10 - $100 certificates for the flight.  or you can break it out by another $ amount.  and then it still keeps track of how many you have received and how many you need. 

if anyone wants to see it...you can view sample registries:
http://www.honeyfund.com/

anyway...i think basically you estimate how much things will cost and then just build the registry based on research.

Heather822

I don't know.... it just still doesn't sit right with me....
I think ut's rude to ask for money, in any denomination, even if you disguise it with a "gift certificate". When it comes down to it, you don't HAVE to use the money for what is on the "gift certificate"... you could use it for a car repair or groceries if you really wanted to....

nicole.calcado

I think it sounds like a great idea, I've been to weddings where they used it and it was so nice to be able to help out with a trip that I know the couple will enjoy. I haven't researched how that particular site works yet but I'm looking forward to searching through all those sites.

melissa82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_honey-fund?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3871086d-5cfc-480c-9831-d50bf63bd90fPost:8bb347ad-cf7e-446e-b7a5-bdce82530d1a">Re: Honey Fund</a>:
[QUOTE]...and its better than asking people for money for our honeymoon, which i woudl NEVER do.
Posted by reese511[/QUOTE]

But that IS what it's doing, under the guise of a registry.

I don't mean any offense. But really you don't think it's even a <em>little</em> odd that it's a "registry" from which you can't buy anything, and that a person literally just prints out a fake "certificate" that's not actually good for an actual good or service? I think eventually honeymoon registries will probably become more mainstream, but I don't think any of the companies out there right now really have it down.

I also have a bad taste in my mouth about HM registries in general because I was just in a bridal party where the bride told us contributing to her HM registry was to be our shower gift to her. So I am a bit biased here. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

DMLJ

I originally thought that a honeymoon fund sounded practical but then my mom pointed out to me that when cousin cathy gets you a butter dish she can then come over for dinner and see you using the butter dish in your home... I don't think you will be sending pic. of your couples massage to the relative who gifts it to you- get what I mean?

This honeyfund thing sounds weird--- As a guest I wouldn't understand why I had to print something out to give you a check.  The travel agent idea is probably better- or a more traditional registry. 

demarcosjd

We used Honeyfund and had no problems with it. At first we were on the fence about it but our guests thought it was a great idea. We had several things purchased from it and had such an amazing time on our honeymoon! The way our guests looked at is what's the difference from spending money on towels that essentially can get old and thrown out or spending money on an excursion that will be a lifetime memory. We also took pictures of us doing every activity that was purchased for us and we will be sending the picture in our thank you card to those guests who purchased it.

mariaNryan

the way i look at it is your spending money on a gift anyway so whats the difference between a honeymoon registry..... i guess people have thier own opinions... i love this option and we will be doing it with our travel agent and she said they will send you business cards just like bbb gives you pieces of paper.... then your guest call the number and put however much they want towards your honeymoon and then the travel agent sends them a certificate saying they donated this much towards your honey moon....

TuffysMommie

I agree with some of the others - it doesn't totally sit well with me. If I wanted to contribute to a honeymoon, I'd write a check - and could even say to them "Use this towards something cool on your honeymoon."  I trust the couple would do so. To me, registering for money is just a bit off-putting.

Rachel R15

A family wedding is coming up within the next two months and I noticed the wedding couple just put up the Honey Fund on their wedding website.
In all honesty, this is the tackiest thing to do. With many people in my family watching their spending, I find it an insult to ask for money for a honeymoon (especially when the couple is well-healed). I can only imagine that if any other family member was to be aware of this couple's honey fund, they would send in $50.00 and not attend the wedding. Just sayin' my two cents -

Rachel R15

A family wedding is coming up within the next two months and I noticed the wedding couple just put up the Honey Fund on their wedding website.
In all honesty, this is the tackiest thing to do. With many people in my family watching their spending, I find it an insult to ask for money for a honeymoon (especially when the couple is well-healed). I can only imagine that if any other family member was to be aware of this couple's honey fund, they would send in $50.00 and not attend the wedding. Just sayin' my two cents -

gibribuz

I do not like the idea of a honeymoon registry.  If I did not have enough money to take the honeymoon that I really wanted then I would go somewhere less expensive but I would never want others to pay for it. 

uppereastgirl

I don't have any real etiquette objection to honeymoon registries, particularly considering that so many people seem to have the "you should give only money as a wedding gift" mentality.

I think it is stupid to pay a fee (or not pay a fee) to buy the couple a "candlelit beachside couples stone massage with local essential oils" when in reality they get a check for $300 that they could use for that, or their rent check, or anything else.  I might as well just cut out the middle man and give them a check.

But I totally agree with Melissa.  I had no idea that honeyfund was just a way to create a slip of paper and you write your own check.  That is the silliest concept I've heard in a long time.  And I'm saying this after watching the Snazzy Napper commercial this morning.

kristen8040

My mom just went to a shower, and beforehand I looked at the girl's regular registry and her honeymoon registry to disney world.  The thing was pretty ridiculous.  She registered for snacks in the park and souvenirs, in addition to their room costs, shows, and about 10 different restaurants requesting $100 each for them.  

I think if you're going to do it, just be smart about it and don't register for crazy things and go through the travel agent.   I was thinking of doing one since we've already been in our house for a year, but I realized there are a  tons of upgrades we could use.