seating- non-sweetheart table

stapletond

We decided not to have a sweetheart table.  Who did you sit with?  Friends or family?

cvl105

You could sit with your bridal party....I wouldn't do family...unless you're going to sit with both yours and his family.  Don't choose.

uppereastgirl

Bridal party (minus our sisters) and their dates.

Our sisters and their dates sat with our parents and my grandfather.

We sat at our table for the toasts and like 5 other minutes total, so it wasn't really a big deal in retrospect.

Laurms15

You could sit with your parents and his parents if you wanted to sit with family.

We considered origionally sitting with his mom (dad passed away) my parents, my sister (MOH) and his best man and wife which would have been nice but we went w/ a sweetheart table instead.

mbcdefg

We only had four attendants in total, and only three of them brought dates, so we were able to get all 9 of us at one long head table.

My cousin and her husband sat with both sets of parents.

stapletond

I have 6 BM and he has 7 GM...so this is going to be tricky.  Maybe we'll just sit with our siblings + dates as well as our Best Man and MOH???  We are supposed to have a table of 10 or 12. 

Thanks for your help!

Fink

We are sitting with our siblings and their significant others since we are all really close.

Peacefield

We're going to do the wedding party and their dates.  The challenge is to not create the whole "favorites" problem.  You can't sit with some family and not sit with all family.  Or elevating some friends over others.

jaimelody

Your bridal party? Who do you want to sit with? Why no sweetheart table? To be honest with you, I was thankful we did the sweetheart table so we could have a few minutes to talk with one another. You don't realize how crazy things are going to be.

mbcdefg

If you can sit with a mix of family, that's good.

Otherwise, if it'd be all/mostly one family sitting with you (for example, if we did siblings, it'd be only mine since MH is an only child), I'd keep it neutral and sit with friends. When I asked my parents who they wanted to sit with, they elected to sit at a table with friends so that neither side of the family would get pissy that one family was being "favored."

Siblings and Honor Attendants, with all their dates, sounds like a good choice.

demarcosjd

I agree with Jaime. Everyone is different but we loved the time alone with one another. We actually sat there ate our food, talked with each other, we were able to take it all in and have a moment together. A few people came up to the table and took pictures with us but it was actually relaxing and a relief to know we didn't have to worry about our bridal party being upset they weren't sitting with their dates or our parents not being able to sit with our grandparents.

DandT1206

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_seating-non-sweetheart-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:5ca1caa4-d065-4689-8fab-b27d16fb0fa7Post:37f71819-c33d-4f5e-96aa-56f73711f864">Re: seating- non-sweetheart table</a>:
[QUOTE]To be honest with you, I was thankful we did the sweetheart table so we could have a few minutes to talk with one another. You don't realize how crazy things are going to be.
Posted by jaimelody[/QUOTE]

I agree 100%.  You hardly sit anyway.... and when you do sit, you want to enjoy each other and the moment alone.

stapletond

My FI is opposed to a sweetheart table.  He thinks it is weird to sit alone and have a meal facing everyone.  Logistically I thought it was easiest, since we'd hardly be sitting anyway.  I don't care too much either way, and he feels very strongly about it, so I'm going to not have a sweetheart table.

NJ Jen

I really enjoyed having a sweetheart table at my first wedding. Best of all was my mother blocking the path to the table for five minutes - literally threw her body into the breech - so we could eat something.

This time we are sitting with our parents and our children.