Officiant question

Phoenixashes

Ok, I have scoured the boards lookng for a similar question, but I have found nothing. FI and I are meetting with an officiant on the 5th and we really have no idea what we are supposed to bring, say, do and all that fun stuff other than what kind of ceremony we are looking for. So any pointers on this matter would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

agu101

There really is nothing you need to do our bring with you, except possibly your checkbook if you decide to hire that particular officient.  Most likely they will ask you and FI to fill out info about yourselves and religious affiliations (if you have any or want a religious ceremony).  When we met with our officient, he did most of the talking and basically explained to us how he works and what we need to do in preparation for our wedding day.  He took us through a huge document that he gave us that contains tons of options to customize our wedding to us.  If this is just a meeting to determine if you are going to hire this particular officiant, then I say you have nothing to worry about.

foxxfire90

Just bring your questions !    Usually my first meeting is just to get to know the couple a little bit, to let them explain the elements of the ceremony and to hear what they'd like included. I give them ideas about what we might include like sand sharings, chocolate sharings, etc. Of course, I want to hear if they are interested in including cultural, ethnic or religious traditions too; whether they want to include family, friends or pets in the ceremony.

More important though is how you connect with the officiant; do you feel comfortable with them? Do you feel like they "get" you? Do they seem professional, polished; do they speak well?  Your meeting is a performance in itself, and will give you an idea of how they'll be on your wedding day.

The 'heavy lifting' comes after you've picked your favorite person.

Celia Milton