I've always heard, "you give what you get and you get what you give", meaning if you give someone $300 for their wedding, you'll get $300 at your wedding.
However, FI's cousin is getting married for the 2nd time in a wedding/baptism with a reception the following day at their house a week after our wedding at a private venue (FI and I are footing the entire bill). We're in completely different stages of our lives so I'm curious if we simply give them whatever they give us the following weekend? The same question goes for a wedding we're attending a few weeks after ours where the plates cost more than ours but we know the couple's parents footed the bill. Thoughts?