BFF/MOH Decision

srragin77

I have a big decision to make...My BFF has offered her services to me to be my wedding coordinator.  (She works with a professional wedding coordiantor and has coordinated a number of weddings)  She is definitely the person that I would go to even if she's wasn't my coordinator.  She had the go-to, get it done attitude that I need in putting things together.  Well, as my BFF, I would want her in my wedding as my MOH.  I have expressed this to her, but she said she can't handle both responsibilities on the day of my wedding. I'm confused....what am I to do?  Any suggestions...

HobokensFury

Ask her to be MOH and let her decide.

kristen8040

Don't mix friends with business.  

akenny

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[QUOTE]Don't mix friends with business.  
Posted by kristen8040[/QUOTE]<div>
<div>Agreed. 

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mbcdefg

All she'd have to do as MOH would be to get the dress, walk down the aisle and stand next to you at the ceremony. Maybe give a speech at the reception if she wants.

But if you've already asked her, and she's aware that MOH doesn't carry any additional duties and she'd rather be the coordinator, then just let it go.

You don't need a MOH, so if your closest friend doesn't want to be MOH, then just have all bridesmaids. And you don't need to ask an additional person so that you have a certain number ... just ask whoever you were originally planning to ask.

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]Don't mix friends with business.  
Posted by kristen8040[/QUOTE]

Totally agree.  Also, she's your best friend.  I think she should be at your wedding to have fun, not to work.  I'd tell her that you're really touched by her (really) very nice offer, but want her to be drinking champagne when you're getting ready and out on the dance floor with you -- not worrying about whether the centerpieces are just right.

felicia220

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BFF/MOH Decision : Totally agree.  Also, she's your best friend.  I think she should be at your wedding to have fun, not to work.  I'd tell her that you're really touched by her (really) very nice offer, but want her to be drinking champagne when you're getting ready and out on the dance floor with you -- not worrying about whether the centerpieces are just right.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally agree with this.  She can still help you plan things, many MOH do it and go above and beyond their "duties" but she doesn't need to be the one to organize everything.  Maybe there is someone she works with that she trusts to be your DOC, so there is someone there to take care of things and it doesn't have to be her.  </div>

srragin77

Thanks so much for the advice ladies....I am going to weigh all of my options and see what I am going to do.  I really like the idea of entrusting someone else that she works with to handle the necessities on my big day.  Thanks again ladies!