Decision making skills

bryanto

I lack decision making skills all together but adding the stress of I need to make decisions and make them stick is driving me crazy. I cannot do it. Is anyone else having this problem? How are you dealing with it?

Beth0882

I guess I don't have that many problems making decisions, but I do tend to do a lot of research and then narrow my choices down.  Then I run the choices by my mom and FI to see what they think.  Usually that helps.

Don't know what your budget is like, but maybe you can consider a wedding planner.  That person would be able to help a lot, as they could tell you what would work based on their experience.

The thing to keep in mind is that as long as you pick good vendors (check lots of reviews, BBB, etc.), your day will be wonderful and any detail you pick will be great.  No guest will know you debated over this meal or that, or this bridesmaid dress or that, and will think whatever you choose is wonderful.  Just go with something you like and try not to rehash the decision after you are done!

GirlieGirl27320

I'm not having any trouble keeping with the decisions I make either, but I would agree with Beth that maybe a wedding planner can help out.  I met with a florist that does the whole wedding planner thing, too, and she was very helpful with putting all your ideas into perspective.

bryanto

It would be helpful if my fiance would decide on some things. That is why we talked today. He is the one that wants the full blown wedding so he has said he will start helping with decisions. It is about time!

Thank you ladies.

kellynicolepuckett

I will say that usually I am very decisive, but while planning my wedding, it seemed that I could not make a decision to save my life! I had to make some decisions by myself because my family was out of town and I found that the hardest. I just needed someone's opinion! I even doubted my dress decision and it was THE perfect dress. I think it has to do with the fact that you only have one chance to make the wedding exactly how you want it. Hang in there, girl. The one thing I wish I could have afforded was a wedding planner. They could definitely help with decisions.

elizabethb3511

I feel your pain!  I HATE making decisions.  This has been a hard process and I'm glad I have a very long engagement in order to weigh all the options. It's so overwhelming.  I was just telling my mom yesterday that I wish they had a magazine devoted to only one aspect of a wedding so I wouldn't get bombarded by all the other things at once (ie, mag for flowers, another mag for cakes, etc.).  I've spent at least three weekends narrowing down invitations (and I've looked through every single book at Party City twice!)...I finalized my pick yesterday and now I want to go online and look at another wedding website for more invitations. 

For wedding dresses, I luckily found that feeling of "the one" but I still check out magazines to reassure myself.  I'm all about due diligence.

From this experience I have learned to let go on some things.  I just have to admit to myself that mishaps are going to happen even to the most well planned out weddings...my cousin had a $150K wedding and the string quartet was terrible!

Good luck with the planning and know that you aren't alone!!!!  It'll be your perfect day cause you'll be marrying the man you love!

pirategal03

We've just gone through a bit of indecision trying to choose invitations.

I look at all decisons 2 things at a time.  I say I can either choose A or B, A is better.  OK A or C?  C.  C or D? etc. until I either narrow it down to two and then solicit help from friends/family or until the decision is made.  Then once a decision is made, it's made, don't re-visit it. 

ecuchika

For somethings the decisions are easy.  For others its hard so I feel your pain.  Right now I am having a hard time picking colors!  I can't continue with flowers, invites, centerpieces, dresses etc til that is done.  Try not to worry about making your mind up on everything at once.  Pick one thing and like pps said don't revisit after you made your mind up!!! GL