So me and my FI has saved up for this wedding within a short period of time and hadn't thought about others in advance. We have 11 girls in the wedding and 7 guys all together. The guys have purchased their suits and there is 2 of my girls who haven't. I offered to pay for their dresses by having a "fish fry or car wash" but no one wants to help; and to top it off; the two girls have came across money and still didn't think to get their dresses in advance like I had asked. So I extended the date for them to get their dresses by until Aug. instead of June like I told all the rest of the girls. I brought this to their attention or shall I say my FI aunt brought it to their attention and now their sayn their not going to be in it, they would rather be guest; b/c they have no money to contribute to their dresses. These two ladies play a very important part in my wedding and they mean a lot to me (the two ladies are my maid of honor and matron of honor). My mother has said that it is tacky for me to throw a "fish fry or car wash" for them; since they know what is expected in being in a wedding (purchasing their own attire). I thought to use some of my wedding decorations money in order for them to get their dresses, but my mother is freaking out and its causig me to freak out now. What do you think I should do? should I throw the fish fries or car wash, or should I just let them try and purchase it themselves before August?