UGHHH! So stressed over this!

DMLJ

I feel like everyday I get a phone call from a family member to tell me that someone new is not coming to the wedding.  Our of 186 people we can't even make 115 now!  We've invited some extras but everytime we meet the minumum again we lose more people!  Its f8cking 1 week before the wedding and I had 3 cancellations today!  It's totally insane!  I may need a knottie or two--- we'll see. 

It makes me so upset that NONE of my co-workers are coming, NONE of Paul's cousins are coming, and we lose random people here and there almost everyday. I think that it is because no one has any money, but my wedding does not have an entry fee!  At this point I think it is ruder to cancel 1 week before than to give a small gift. 

tinydancer842

wow now you are making me nervous this will happen to me!! 

kimmys81

you could do a Knottie table, invite Siblings of good friends...neighbors if you are close enough...

diamondx423

=( 

i'm sorry. that totally sucks!

goaliegirl

Hang in there....always remember that the people that are there are there for you guys...and those that aren't it's their loss.    whatever happens, your day will be beautiful and in the end you will be married to paul and that is really all that matters in the long run!  who cares who is there!

gymchick05

could you go ahead and invite his cousin's last minute letting them know you always wanted them but couldnt afford that many ppl before, but now you can? Or would that be insulting to them?

DMLJ

He is going to invite some work friends..... we def have options but I literally just got done with the seating arrangement! Arggghh! 

DMLJ

Cousins were all invited as were my co-workers---- -they all declined

MissButters

I'm sorry that you're dealing with it.  It's a little rude to have replied yes and then cancel.

kasabby

It totallly sucks that you are dealing with this. I just don't get people sometimes and why they think it is ok to cancel a week before. Hope it all works out for you! In the end, I am sure that you will have a great day!

BlissfullyTired

People are so thoughtless.  Try not to worry too much  - people love to go to weddings and I am sure you will be able to fill the empty seats.  Don't let the rude manners of others ruin what is going to be an amazind day for you. 

cvl105

this happened to us...with inviting over 250 people, we only had like 170...we didn't make our minimum. It's not that big of a deal.  Ask for extras or for the meals to take home with you if you don't make it.  And make sure to ask if you can include your vendors in your minimum. We did that.

DMLJ

Out vendors are already included in the minimum--- we are still under.

Reilly626

Curious- do knottie table knotties give $ gifts????

DMLJ

yup- usually less than you would if you were friends tho.  At One knottie wedding I went to, we collected money from everyone (lotsa knotties) and gave one card.  Another one, I gave 50.  We would probably spend that much on a nice dinner anyway, so why not?

cvl105

I was under too...who cares....not something you need to be stressing about last minute. It's not worth it because it's not something you can change.  If it really  bothers you, have a knottie table.  Invite any kids of your parent's friends that you grew up with that you didn't originally invite...we did this also.  I also invited my best friend's sister and her husband.  And I was still under. 

gibribuz

We haven't even sent out invitations yet and I am already worrying that people are going to cancel on us at the last minute.  I don't understand why people decline to weddings... I think they are so much fun!

KellyandEddie0808

I am having the opposite problem.  My venue lowered the minimum for us from 100 to 75.  I was only planning to invite 100 people but my FI and mom kept adding people.  So I ended up inviting 120 and haven't had one decline yet.  I still have a week to the RSVP date so we'll see.

cherylanddan0706

I'm sorry Diane, but just let it go, there is nothing you can do about people not coming, do what chelsea said, if worse comes to worse do a knottie table, if you don't feel comfortable doing that.

Cvan8765

So sorry to hear that, that is seriously rude.  At least give some advanced notice.

Just FYI for everyone, when I spoke with my planner at our venue she said the decline rate has been about 20%-25% since the recession began.  Not assuming this applies in this situation, but some people don't have money for gifts if they are unsure of their job security.