I saw on another board a bride is planning to do a mother-daughter dance, as well as a father-daughter dance, because she is very close with her mother. I saw this and thought this would be a good idea because I am very close with my mother. Both my father and mother will be walking me down the aisle (as of right now), so I figured why not dance with my mother too. I am not close with my father at all, but I feel I have to dance with him and have him walk me down the aisle for status quo purposes, even though I really don’t want to. I feel I have to make it look good in order to keep him happy at my wedding because if anyone questions or makes a comment as to why we didn’t he will get mad and make my wedding miserable for me. A dance with my mother would be much more meaningful to both of us, but it is not the norm. I was wondering what everyone else thought of this? Is it too unusual? Have you seen it done before?
Re: mother-daughter dance
The only thing about special dances at a wedding that bothers me is when they're very long, and/or there are a lot of them. "First I'll dance with my dad for a special five-minute song. Then my mom for another five minutes. Then my two older brothers. Then my uncle who helped raise me. Then my grandpa and step-grandpa. Etc. etc. etc."
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I wish I could get rid of the mother-son/father-daughter dances, but my FMIL is looking forward to her dance with my fiance and I don't want to take that away from her. This mother-daughter dance is definitely a possibility now. It will make the night more special for me, since my father-daughter dance is really just for show. No one will really care about my that dance except my father and whoever is at his table because everyone else knows I don't want to do it.
[QUOTE]I've seen it done before, everyone at that wedding thought it was sweet, and I very much doubt that anyone will be sitting at your wedding and thinking it's stupid. The only thing about special dances at a wedding that bothers me is when they're very long, and/or there are a lot of them. "First I'll dance with my dad for a special five-minute song. Then my mom for another five minutes. Then my two older brothers. Then my uncle who helped raise me. Then my grandpa and step-grandpa. Etc. etc. etc."
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I agree with MB.....I have seen it done before a few times. But like she said, sometimes all the special dances get a little long and drawn out and your guests start talking and stop paying attention. Maybe you can pick shorter songs or just play a portion of each song to keep it a little shorter but still have the opportunity to dance with both.
[QUOTE]I did it and it meant the world to me!!!! (and my mom). My mom and I are extremely close, and I now treasure the pictures and memories I have of dancing with her at our wedding. I did the father/daughter dance, but it def did not mean as much to me, I'm nowhere near as close with my dad. It was more for show. My mom and I danced to the song "Somebody's Hero" By Jamie O'Neal, the lyrics, the beat, everything was perfect, we danced around and it was an upbeat song with absolutely beautiful lyrics such meaningful words, esp to us! I also did a short dance with my Dad (not the full song) and cut the song with my mom I think about 2 1/2 minutes in after the verse about the Daughters wedding This is the video on youtube <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_uMQTw7v2g" rel='nofollow'>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_uMQTw7v2g</a> I say do what is important to you! I would not have wanted to miss out on dancing with my mom!!!
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Awe! Thanks! That really helps me! I will look at the video later when I am home (I'm at work now). Weddings really do not highlight the mother of the bride at all and I really want my mom to feel special, she deserves it!
Please remember that this is your wedding--so do not worry what guests will think it's weird (and i don't think any will, to tell you the truth). Do what you want. You get one day to celebrate with your family and FI. Follow your heart and go for it!
My advice to you....do what makes you happy!