MGs: How many no shows did you have?

akmackay

On another board someone said they had 10 no shows. I had none (but was expecting a few- very relieved everyone came). People who couldn't come last minute called a few days earlier (gall bladder removed), before our final numbers. To be honest, the people who didn't show to the church surprised me. Okay, it pissed me off. haha

I know I've asked this before, but I still find it interesting people just wouldn't show to a wedding they RSVP'ed yes to. I know there are extenuating (sp?) circumstances, but still.

mbcdefg

I think about 3 didn't show to the reception. One had a legitimate excuse, and the others just left a message at the hall saying they couldn't make it with no follow-up.

We got a few calls the week leading up to the wedding of people who suddenly couldn't make it, too. Maybe another 4?

rlb81

We told our venue 5 less as the final head count. We had 2 pregnant friends whose due dates were close to the wedding, both woman and one of their husbands didn't show day of. 2 of my coworkers who both live in NYC (and neither drive) didn't come. I was pissed. One of them texted me the day of to say her sister's car was in the shop (total lie) and the other just didn't show, no call nothing. She sent a gift last week actually but I still haven't heard from her as to why she didn't come...

If anyone remembers the story about my surprise shower, the coworker who didn't show w/ no explanation was the same one who called me 2 days before my shower and blew the whole surprise (oh and didn't come to the shower either).

Laurms15

There was only one no show that we heard of that day. (someone's husband got sick and stayed home) We had 3 people say they couldn't come the week before I filled two of the spots (one person was able to come last minute who had replied no origionally, and the mom of one of my girls was fine w/ being a fill-in, the 3rd one stayed empty)

MandWNJ

I didn't have any no shows, but I did have a childhood friend that never responded to the wedding and Is till haven;t heard from from her!

SpillerExtraordinaire

We had two no shows.  One was my mom's cousin's husband but my mom's cousin brought her daughter who I had previously met.  The other one I was briefly pissed about; it was my dad's cousin's son's girlfriend.  She had been invited by the cousin without us actually inviting her (we extended the invite to the son when we found out that the wife couldn't come and the cousin was flying up from GA and the son lived in NYC).  Day of she didn't show. I'm guessing its because it would've been awkward to go to a family wedding where the family wasn't terribly close.

Heather822

Ugh, I would be sooo pissed (assuming there was no legitimate aka serious reason)... that might seriously be a friendship ender for me!

jennhiggins

We had a total of 3 couples (6 people).  One had a baby the day before our wedding, so obviously we couldn't be mad and they let us know as soon as they got to the hospital.  Another texted me the morning of to let me know they were in the hospital (I don't believe it).  And the third just didn't show, no call or followup to even apologize.  That's probably the one I'm most mad about.  It's really rude and I would never do that to someone.

demarcosjd

We had 4 no shows. One was MH Dads cousin (we still don't know what happened). A family friend who had the time to cancel her room reservation under our room block which required 72 hours notice but never bothered to call and tell us she could no longer make it. The other 2 was my great aunt and her son who weren't feeling well. I was a little disappointed not so much that I couldn't believe they were no shows but that they weren't there to celebrate with us.

cherylanddan0706

We were very lucky, we had no no-shows.

mrs.spunky1508

Uh, we had 8. One person was supposed to bring a date, but the date cancelled. One of DH's friend's wife was in the hospital (and they live OOT). One of my cousins and his FI didn't come. Another friend of DH's didn't come b/c he's an idiot and scheduled a root canal for the Thursday before and then "didn't feel like driving". Then gave my H attitude when he called him out on it - and not in a bad way but in a "hey dude my ILs shelled out $$ for your dinner, that was kinda messed up" way - then proceeded to not talk to my H for a year b/c of it. Then there was one more who I am blanking on now.

jaimelody

We had 1 couple that didn't show but they were a last minute invitation. We had more people that responded no that actually showed up and some who weren't invited who came!

Just Jen

I think we had 7 who dropped out after the final count was in.

But only 1 of them happened teh day of -- the rest we found out the week leading up to it.

uppereastgirl

1 -- the priest.  He had to do last rites, which of course is an extremely understandable reason for a last-second no. 

We got 2 extra nos after our final numbers -- one was a girlfriend of a good friend (they broke up 2 weeks before the wedding) and another was in the hospital (very sick with cancer so this wasn't a surprise).  I let the venue know and I'm pretty sure we weren't charged for them.

A few people showed up at the church late because they got lost, but I don't know of anyone who came to the reception who wasn't at the church, and I've looked at the photos and video a million times.  I don't think anyone skipped the ceremony.

jchristel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_mgs-many-shows-did?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:dc2c542b-245b-4807-acad-fe1f62cb01f0Post:0408d2b5-c5e8-4d21-803e-255cf69dac1f">Re: MGs: How many no shows did you have?</a>:
[QUOTE]We had 1 couple that didn't show but they were a last minute invitation. We had more people that responded no that actually showed up and some who weren't invited who came!
Posted by jaimelody[/QUOTE]

<div>WHAT?  You had people the responded No and showed up?  And people the weren't invited?  I want more details on this one...</div>

Karma01

5 people didn't show

One couldn't get a flight out here - we had a blizzard two days before
My cousins woke up with a fever so he and his date didn't come
My friend's date couldn't get a flight out due to the weather but my friend is a pilot so he was able to get here just not his date
MH friend was "sick"

BlissfullyTired

Just two - their daughter got sick that day.

Reilly626

Wow! Weve had 4 cancellations this week- but we dont give our final count till Monday...

felicia220

We had 6 People not show up, 4 from H side and 2 from mine, but apparently all three couples had something happen and a real reason not to be there.  All of them sent a card with an apology and a gift, I thought that was very nice.  

AlmostLoCo

Just one no-show - my cousin who passed away a few years ago's teenaged step-son. He thought my other cousin, who he's close to, would be there but when he found out that he wasn't going he decided not to go because he doesn't know the other family members. Given the circumstances I understood, although a phone call or email would have been nice.

We also had a last minute convoluted guest swap; one of DH's college friend's wife didn't think she could make it so he was coming with a mutual friend who wasn't invited instead, then wife could make it but another college friend who was supposed to attend got sick, and mutual friend replaced sick friend. Got that?

And, yes, we still have a couple family members and friends who never RSVPed, responded to our requests for their RSVP, or acknowledged the fact that we got married. Nice.

Lola Minnie

i believe we had 0 no shows... though if we had any, i'm sure no one would've told me because i wouldn't have been happy about throwing away that $

fallingsnow

If someone RSVP's that they're coming and then just flat out doesn't show up (without a legitimate excuse, of course) I think I may never talk to them again.

Is that wrong? 

ecg129

I had 7 no shows

2 - something serious happened

2 -  No call no show no card  - possible friendship ender, I think so. I think an apology would be warranted

2 - Called the day before about a supposed accident ...(I say supposed because I think she was just too lazy to come)

1-  No show, no call - card w/ apology and gift