STD Addressing Question

kasabby

I am not sure if this has been asked before-sorry if it has.
I am going to be sending my STD's in the next month. They have been ordered and I am just waiting on them. Anyway, I am curious about addressing them. For example, I have cousins that I am not inviting with guests and they still live with my aunt and uncle. I am not going to send them their own so do I address the envelope "The Smith Family" or do I put "John, Jane, Bill, & Kate Smith". I am not sure how to handle it since there will not be an inner envelope.
Also, do you address the STD's with guest. Or do you not have to do that until the actual invitation?

gibribuz

We didn't send the STDs with "and guest." I believe that is only necessary for the invitations. 

Gabriella26

OUr save the dates we did exactly what you said and basically sent them out one per household for families. I would address them as the 'Family' but i think either way is fine. And you do not have to include guest on the STD just send them to the person you are inviting and then on the invitation you add and guest (that way if things change and you can't or don't want to invite someone w/ a guest they won't be expecting it

felicia220

Same as PP, I would send "Smith Family"  and wait for the invite to do "and Guest"

smw42

Not sure if this was the proper way to do it, but we did the exact wording on the STD as we did on the wedding invites. The goal of this was to lessen the blow for the famiiles that we werent inviting the kids with the STD's in an attempt to minimize the drama when we sent the wedding invite as only Mr. and Mrs. - I'll let you know if that actually worked or not!

MissButters

If a family was invited, we did The Smith family.  If kids were not invited, we did Mr. and Mrs. Smith.  We did not worry about 'and Guest' on the STDs.

sk2342

the formal way of doing it is each adult guest gets a save the date, regardless if there are several adults in a home. That home would get however many invitations there are for each couple you are inviting. And I would also include "with guest" if you are allowing those who aren't married guests to the wedding. It may seem like a waste of invitations but up until recently I was living home with my 2 younger sisters (one is 25, the other is 22) and when my cousin got married 4 invitations showed up to our house one for my parent and one for both of my sisters and myself "with guest" adressed on the outside...If there are children I would tag them onto the parents invitations, so Mr. & Mrs Bob SMith and Billy and Sue (without their last names)

it all really depends how formal the wedding is though too!

akmackay

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_std-addressing-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:dd37b433-7767-49de-94bf-4543d556b05cPost:6f2c908f-815d-44e8-935b-8d5340d63f36">Re: STD Addressing Question</a>:
[QUOTE]If a family was invited, we did The Smith family.  If kids were not invited, we did Mr. and Mrs. Smith.  We did not worry about 'and Guest' on the STDs.
Posted by MissButters[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

And we only sent them to the people we were 100% positive we would invite to the wedding (no co-workers, friends that could go either way etc)

kwilkinson14

I am going to send STD to everyone over the age of 18. Some of my cousins still live with their parents but they are older. I know some households will get multiple invitations but I didn't want my cousins to feel that they were secondary. Also, I am addressing the STD in the exact way I am addressing the invites. I don't want to cause any confusion about guests and such. Most of those who would get guest are a SO. So I don't want anyone to be offended.