Feel like TheKnot hates me

pcrmhd9

I've been engaged for a month. I go on here daily to look for inspiration for my wedding. My bestfriend is also engaged but I would love to have more bride-to-be friends...not sure how to go about it. I post on forum topics where I want to chime-in but it seems like after I post-in on a conversation, they all end. I'm having a bad day as it is, so this is being blown out of proportion but people I know all say they have a million friends on here and hang out with them in the real world..i dont know...i just have a lot of questions, fears, ideas etc and would love some steady friends to talk with up to and after the big day!!!

goaliegirl

maybe start off by introducing yourself and telling us a little more about you and your wedding.  Then just post a bunch and you get to know people.  Some of us have been around for quite awhile.  If there is a GTG, try and attend that is how you will meet people.

Laurms15

I agree w/ the other Laurie! You need to introduce yourself and post. Once you become a regular then you will feel more comfortable. Additionally if you post on something that is really far down it may just be a dead post that ppl don't really check anymore.

pcrmhd9

what is GTG?

I put the info on my profile...should I be putting the intro elsewhere?

Thanks!

DMLJ

GTG is a get together.... yeah- no one reads the bios unless you specifically say to.   right and intro post.

Trust me, no one is intentionally ignoring you... you have to go through the period of being a newbie before we start to recognize the sn.  I would also stick to just one or two boards unless you have a specific question, like about your honeymoon or a wedding dress that their are specific boards for.

You have plenty of time to get to know people on here and you'll learn as you go what the "social norms" and language of the boards is!

goaliegirl

GTG--Get together...every once in awhile somebody plans one and posts the info.  Send them your email and they will send an evite out with the details.

As for your profile, most people probably won't read that...make a new post and introduce yourself and tell us about your wedding, etc.   That is the best way to do it.  Keep in mind that the board is kind of slow these days...some times are more active than others and the board is usually DEAD on the weekends.   You may want to wait until Monday and do an intro post.

Danes983

Hi, I am Danes983.  I have been on the board over a year and trust me its very helpful.  Tell us about your wedding. When it is, Where it is, something about FI and yourself.  Welcome.

smw42

Once you post more regularly I'm sure you'll feel better- you can see how many posts each of us have and with each one you'll feel more "part" of the board. If you look down there's  post titled "Coming Out" - that's the type of introduction post the girls are referring too. This board is really great- and you can also visit your club board (the board of the month you're getting married in) to get some ideas.

pcrmhd9

Thanks everyone...it's just one of those days! Luckily, it's almost over!

Have a good weekend!!

PS- there really needs to be a glossary for all the abbreviations!

Julephenia

Welcome! It takes a while for us all to recognize names, and an intro post really helps.

Also, some boards are more active than others - how often do people post on the boards you visit? And check post dates - you may be replying to threads of girls who are already married!

Hope that helps!

cherylanddan0706

I'm sorry, everyone was nice and I'm a old hag MG that wont be, how does the knot hate you if you don't introduce yourself, if you want to be friends with brides to be, then post more, give advice, ask for advice, say hi, don't blame the knot because you can't type a post.

DMLJ

Cheryl, when I saw that you posted I HAD to click in--- I knew it would be snarky!  It is kind of bebe-ish to say that The Knot hates you cause no one posts after, but I figured I'd give her the benefit of the doubt if she is having a bad day.  Everyone feels left out every now and then I suppose

pcrmhd9

ok now you're starting to piss me off...how am i supposed to know that i need to do an intro post...i honestly to dont see any of them from any other knotties...i'll do it but give me a break...

further, im just going to say i dont understand people that are on this constantly who are already married.

i dont want to start a fight. the posts are about venting and getting info, but if you're going to say im a  baby and dont understand why im not loving this website, then dont reply and make me feel worse.

the other girls have been helpful...seriously, if you're married, i really dont want to hear from you.

cherylanddan0706

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_feel-like-theknot-hates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:e6b346c0-81b8-4787-9151-91e6be2c71b0Post:95a3989e-61b2-4975-81fd-288132432be2">Re: Feel like TheKnot hates me</a>:
[QUOTE]Cheryl, when I saw that you posted I HAD to click in--- I knew it would be snarky!
Posted by DMLJ[/QUOTE]
I am the board bully ya know...

god i hate this board now...but the humor in the stupidity keeps me coming back to check....

goaliegirl

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[QUOTE] god i hate this board now...but the humor in the stupidity keeps me coming back to check....
Posted by cherylanddan0706[/QUOTE]

My thoughts exactly!!!!

pcrmhd9

hope you feel good about yourself for being a computer bully.

cherylanddan0706

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_feel-like-theknot-hates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:e6b346c0-81b8-4787-9151-91e6be2c71b0Post:022ffd96-6aa2-49a0-b180-6e44d4ff8c4e">Re: Feel like TheKnot hates me</a>:
[QUOTE]ok now you're starting to piss me off...how am i supposed to know that i need to do an intro post...i honestly to dont see any of them from any other knotties...i'll do it but give me a break... further, im just going to say i dont understand people that are on this constantly who are already married. i dont want to start a fight. the posts are about venting and getting info, but if you're going to say im a  baby and dont understand why im not loving this website, then dont reply and make me feel worse. the other girls have been helpful...seriously, if you're married, i really dont want to hear from you.
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

Woohoo its been a while since someone has said "i dont understand why people who are married are on here.

First-look down someone posted an introduction....

Second, you don't want advice from girls who have already possibly used the vendors you are thinking about using, only girls who have booked them and hope for the best?  Good luck to you darlin'!

pcrmhd9

In Response to Re: Feel like TheKnot hates me:

god i hate this board now...but the humor in the stupidity keeps me coming back to check....
Posted by cherylanddan0706

My thoughts exactly!!!!

IF YOU'RE SICK OF IT, THEN DON'T RESPOND

Laurms15

Just to follow up w/ Cheryl's post...you should keep in mind that the girls on some boards are much nicer then others. The NNJ board is MUCH nicer and more tame then it was back when I signed up. However it does have its snarky moments and the girls here will for sure tell you how it is. They are honest with their opinions and you have to remember that. You can't be offended every time someone is honest if their opinion isn't the same as yours.

My wedding month board is very tame and for the most part very sweet but I know the month after mine was very snarky. Each board has a personality. You have to post and lurk for a while to learn what the personality is of each board.

Jersey girls tell it like it is so don't be offended!

cherylanddan0706

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[QUOTE]hope you feel good about yourself for being a computer bully.
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

bahahaha, its a joke, from a while back, a bunch of us got called bullies from an AE (alter ego=someone who comes on the board and tries to be mean to others under a fake name)

Danes983

Oh Boy..

goaliegirl

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[QUOTE]ok now you're starting to piss me off...how am i supposed to know that i need to do an intro post...i honestly to dont see any of them from any other knotties...i'll do it but give me a break... further, im just going to say i dont understand people that are on this constantly who are already married. i dont want to start a fight. the posts are about venting and getting info, but if you're going to say im a  baby and dont understand why im not loving this website, then dont reply and make me feel worse. the other girls have been helpful...seriously, if you're married, i really dont want to hear from you.
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

No offense but if the married girls leave..who is going to reccomend vendors that they have actually used!   Honestly, a recommendation from a girl who is planning her wedding but never used a vendor means nothing to me.  When I was planning I wanted to hear from MGs who used vendors and had great experiences.  So before you go wishing the MGs away, think again.

cherylanddan0706

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[QUOTE]Oh Boy..
Posted by Danes983[/QUOTE]

<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

pcrmhd9

WOW.

This is why i dont hang out with girls.

Ok first of all, it is nice to have married girls on here for that kind of advice. But when one comes on to just turn what was a good forum into a fight I get pissed off.

I do appreciate the advice of married women and I can take criticism and know when I'm just having a bad day.

To the girls on here that offered actual, helpful advice.....Thank you.

To stupid fucking bitches that just feed on people who are having a bad day, I feel bad for your husbands...and anyone else that knows you personally.

This is offically my last post on the knot and I'll probably cancel my account because at this point, it's a waste of time.

Laurms15

I agree those of us who have gotten married in the last year or two usually come back and post vendor reviews (I'm almost done w/ mine I swear) so that the girls still planning know who was great and who left us high and dry. So please don't wish us all away. I saw the pictures of a married girl (MG) and thats exactly how I picked my photographer. Same goes for my limos. I saw some horror stories from one girl and then I saw some raves from others and thats what is helpful. Thats why we stick around to help ppl who are in the spot we were in months ago...just keep that in mind...

Kvarrone

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[QUOTE]ok now you're starting to piss me off...how am i supposed to know that i need to do an intro post...
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

If you lurked like you said you did then you would have known. Also, there were 2 intro posts today. It's kind of like meeting someone for the first time.. You say "Hello, I'm so and so".

Laurms15

woah....that was a very fast GBCK!

StefaniBel

I have been participating for one week or more in this website and I have been receiving many replies.
I think what everyone is saying is right.  Post and people will answer.
Talk more about yourself and people will talk more about themselves.

goaliegirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_feel-like-theknot-hates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:e6b346c0-81b8-4787-9151-91e6be2c71b0Post:bba4a78b-5285-4d8e-8219-a558c2a83072">Re: Feel like TheKnot hates me</a>:
[QUOTE]WOW. This is why i dont hang out with girls. Ok first of all, it is nice to have married girls on here for that kind of advice. But when one comes on to just turn what was a good forum into a fight I get pissed off. I do appreciate the advice of married women and I can take criticism and know when I'm just having a bad day. To the girls on here that offered actual, helpful advice.....Thank you. To stupid fucking bitches that just feed on people who are having a bad day, I feel bad for your husbands...and anyone else that knows you personally. This is offically my last post on the knot and I'll probably cancel my account because at this point, it's a waste of time.
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

please get over yourself!!!!    That might be the quickest, I feel bad for your husbands we have ever seen!!

cherylanddan0706

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_feel-like-theknot-hates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:e6b346c0-81b8-4787-9151-91e6be2c71b0Post:bba4a78b-5285-4d8e-8219-a558c2a83072">Re: Feel like TheKnot hates me</a>:
[QUOTE]WOW. This is why i dont hang out with girls. Ok first of all, it is nice to have married girls on here for that kind of advice. But when one comes on to just turn what was a good forum into a fight I get pissed off. I do appreciate the advice of married women and I can take criticism and know when I'm just having a bad day. To the girls on here that offered actual, helpful advice.....Thank you. To stupid fucking bitches that just feed on people who are having a bad day, I feel bad for your husbands...and anyone else that knows you personally. This is offically my last post on the knot and I'll probably cancel my account because at this point, it's a waste of time.
Posted by pcrmhd9[/QUOTE]

Listen, as it was said, we tell it how it is, this is tame, if you can't smile and say "im an idiot for not realizing" then thats your own fault, and this is just with me, i'm sure the other girls that infest this board will give you all the puppies and rainbows, so don't leave just because of me :)

cherylanddan0706

Wow...um, did i just make her gbck? I'm on a roll today and I barely post anymore!