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GRAR. Scheduling rant

So, I was supposed to meet with a florist with my mom and FMIL a few weeks ago. The florist had an emergency, and never showed up. He apologized profusely, FMIL has used this florist for years, so I'm trying to schedule another appointment.

However, I scheduled that first appointment when I did, because I knew my schedule was going to get crazy really fast, and then I'd be behind. Of course, the florist (and many vendors) are all like, "You have time!" ...No, actually, I don't. FI will be busy with school once the semester rolls around again, I am in a show, we're both trying to work, FMIL works, mom works (strange hours, too, she's a shiatsu practitioner, so she has to work around client schedules), my dad is only out East about once every six weeks, and I'm struggling to get information out of my BMs. When I call a vendor and ask for an appointment, or to make sure my contract is in the mail (like the photographer, who said he'd mail it at the beginning of July, and FI had to call and say we didn't have it... twice...)... I'm not working on the schedule you think I should be working on, I'm working on the schedule I have!

Yes, right now, I'm mostly out of work. That does not mean I can come running to an appointment at any which time - I have other things I do, other places to be, and I'm asking now because I'm free, NOW.

I get it. They have other brides and parties and jobs. But please, please don't tell me, "You have time!" especially when I've just told you I'm pretty squeezed schedule wise.

Sorry. Frustrating weeks trying to get in contact with people. Some of it is my fault, some of it is not, and it's just getting to me.

Re: GRAR. Scheduling rant

  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011

    Why does both your mother and FMIL need to go to these appointments with you. Although it would be nice to have them, if it is too hard to make a time when everyone can come then you go when YOU can go and be done with it.   If others really want to come they will find a way to get there.   

    Most of my vendors were very good about finding a time to meet with me, as I am very busy during the year with my job, coaching and other things going on and I still found a way to fit them all in...don't worry it will get done.

  • Danes983Danes983 member
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I hear you. A few did the same to me. It pissed me off.  My DJ did that and I am like look buddy you want my $ or not?  You will do it the way I see fit. Maybe look into another florist.
  • edited December 2011
    I was practically having a nervous breakdown trying to coordinate schedules of my FI vendors and myself let alone others like parents. My schedule is very hectic and I work weird house, his hours are completely different then mine. I just ended up only making appointments w/ vendors that worked for me. If someone else was available and could come, great. I took the info, reviewed it w/ FI and when we decided to sign a contract, we set up a time for us both to meet the vendor one time together (or in the case of video I just signed the contract myself). Maybe that would work better for you too?
  • JulepheniaJulephenia member
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    edited December 2011
    I would love to go to the florist alone, but FMIL is paying for this part of the budget, and my mom REALLY wants to be involved. If push comes to shove, I'll just schedule and tell them to deal... right now, though...

    I am looking into other florists mentioned here on the boards. They're next on my list for scheduling. This is the downside of my career. When everyone else is free, I'm the one working!
  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011

    Both of our parents helped pay for certain things for our wedding and they never came to the vendor meetings.  The only one that my mom came to was the venue when I signed the contract because my husband had to work late that night.   they offered to help out but made it clear that it was our choice to choose what we wanted.   

  • edited December 2011
    Can't you meet the florist and show her/him what you want - and they can talk price over the phone with FMIL? I paid for the wedding myself but I had my mom go to the appt for me since i'm in GA and I gave her a list of what I wanted and then my mom went to see in person and then we talked price over the phone. You've got to be flexible in how you get things done.
  • JulepheniaJulephenia member
    Knottie Warrior 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Looks like I'm going to tell my mom to deal with it and FMIL and I will go - since it's just down the road from her, she's really flexible after work hours. This is pretty much the only vendor any of the parental units are involved in, so I feel like I have to accomodate them as much as possible.

    Going into "show mode" (it's when the Little Miss Nice Becky mask gets dropped).
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