For the most part I have an awesome Bridal party - 8 Girls total: 6 of my best girlfriends, my fiance's sister and my cousin who I grew up with. Guess which one is giving me problems??
My Cousin! She's being really nasty about the BM dresses that I have selected as "the contenders." She hasn't gone BM dress shopping because she lives in Queens. She just had her 2nd baby in March and still has some of her baby weight. (I dont care if she loses weight or not - losing weight is not the issue here)
She's not a big girl - I am larger than her!
She keeps making comments to me like "dont pick out a dress that shows my rolls" and "stop picking skinny girl dresses." She's not joking she is being serious. This weekend @ my engagement party she was way out of line by saying (in front of my FI's family and sister) that if I pick a dress that doesnt look good on her she wont be in my wedding.. WTF. What BM has the audacity to say that? I'm at a point where I want to say - "well dont be in my wedding." If she is soooo concerned with not showing her gut (this is what she is really ranting about) she wouldn't have worn a 1-piece terrycloth jumper to the engagement party - where you could see every roll of bellyfat! C'mon what's up with the double-standards?
Does she think I am going to make the rest of the girls wear burlap bags to hide their rockin bodies?
As I mentioned - I am not a skinny bride (all of my BMs are thinner than me) and I am definitely thicker than my cousin, so it really aggravates me that she is being sooo negative about the dresses I am choosing. This really is annoying my other BMs too - because she writes these comment in emails and replies to all.
Should I say something to her? Am I being completely unsensitive? Should I pick the dress I want even if she's going to hate it?
Are these dresses horrific?
I think all of the top contenders are A-Lined..
www.alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaids/Alexia-Designs/-Mermaid,Strapless-Style-2804/">
http://www.alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaids/Alexia-Designs/-Mermaid,Strapless-Style-2804/
(style 2808, on the right,- with a navy dress color)
http://www.saisonblanche.com/product_info.php?cPath=23_32&products_id=155
(in navy)
http://barijay.com/style.php?coll=barijay&showid=339
(in navy)