Vent

mloeks

So it is official that none of my 3 siblings will be attending my wedding. My sister and I had a row in July after she backed out of a bridal shower about 2 weeks before it was to be held and invites had already been sent out. We ended up footing the bill out of our wedding budget...My two brothers have decided not to attend in support of my sister, who was the one who cut off all contact with me (she informed me via e-mail and would not answer the phone). We aren't quite sure how I ended up the bad guy...but I did.I'm really ticked. I specifically hired a wedding photographer for photos outside of the chapel in part for family photos. Both moms asked us to do this. Now, there seems to be little point with only my parents attending and FI's sibling.

CinSity2004

I'm sorry I know how disappointing that can be! We have had alot of family drama lately and  I just found out today that my grandma won't be coming to my wedding, Why? There is no reason why. Sometimes people are selfish and don't realize how much of an impact they can make and hurt others. ((HUGS))

rachel.wenger

Hi hun: I hear you. My father is not attending my wedding in January either. It is not out of spite of my marraige to my best friend, but because of a tiff regarding money that I refused to loan him (once again). You know, your day is about you and your spouse...no one else. It is their issue if they are not going to attend. I can't believe she sent you an email to tell you that. That's the easy way out. They will be the ones in the end that see the pictures...and realize that they should have been there for you to support you starting a new life. Getting married is a huge milestone...and if they are willing to miss it over something so silly...you in the end are the better person. Just move forward and be confident. Good luck on all the wedding plans! Rachel

matilda1215

You know I don't understand how/why weddings bring out drama and the worst in people. I've heard it before, but never really understood it until I became the bride-to-be. I feel so bad for you. My feeling is if there are issues bt you and your sister....then so be it. You and your FI may be better off w/out her at the wedding to cause any possible drama. But for your brothers to not come and support you! Wow.....that's something else.I know this is going to be "easier said than done" advice... but focus on ALL the other positives you'll have going on. It's your wedding!!   It's going to be amazing and you are going to look beautiful!  Def. keep the photog.  Look at it as now you have more time for funny, silly, crazy wedding photos with your soon to be husband! All I can say is try and put this family bs that your sister has seemed to cause to the far, far, far off side and focus on YOUR DAY.  And even after the wedding focus on your new life together. And if you want to deal with this later on, I think that's the time to do it. Not now. You've got lots of support from the girls here! Come here anytime   :Hugs:

pippypipsta

Unfortunately I agree with the notion that weddings sometimes bring out the worse in people. I thought we would be impervious to that but sadly no, so I can totally relate and sympathize with you. However, it is your wedding day and no one should be allowed to spoil that and though it will be hard without them, they will ultimately will be the ones with the guilt later on when the whole thing blows over. Please try and enjoy your run up to your wedding and the day itself, as you'll never be able to re live this time again. Pip.x

vegas101709

Sorry about your sister and brothers.  Is there anyway your parents can intervene at least with your brothers?  I don't understand why they would side with your sister.No matter how it turns out, just focus on your wedding and your future husband.  I'm sure your sister and brothers will regret not going.

Ray_Ray

Oh I'm so sorry! Well we've got just uncer 10 weeks so hopefully they'll come round by then. Like pp said, do you think your Mum could maybe try and have a gentle word with them? But, I do think that if they don't come, you're better off without them there. You're weding will be amazing, you will have a fantastic day xxx I've now completely fallen out with my younger sister over everything too- when I told her about all of the hassle she has caused, her response was 'well why didn't you just lend me the money?' when I said it would have been a gift rather than a loan and she didn't deserve that, she told me how selfish I am for getting married in Vegas! My response? 'grow up!'

karma007

Sorry! I say, keep the photographer, but fork the family (sorry, but even the good parts) and get some romantic shots of the two of you.

mloeks

Thanks for everyone's support! We'll enjoy our day...

kellie528

And I thought I felt bad.One of my supposed best friends - and the supposed best friend of my FI, the person who introduced us in the first place - told me the other night that she was not happy for us and wants out of the friendship.  Then I started seeing posts all over Facebook from another mutual friend which are basically veiled digs at me over the situation.  And I, too, really and truly cannot figure out what I did to cause it.I feel bad enough right now, I can't imagine feeling that way from my own family. I'm so, so sorry.

mloeks

That totally sucks! Sounds like you are better without those friends!

mloeks

Good luck with your wedding!

kellie528

Thank you! You too!