Is is common to require BMs to...

kristyand

get their hair done at a salon? I know lots of brides give the option, I know lots just say do your hair this way, I just said look pretty...

I don't want to be difficult but the costs are already high (as we all know) and just got an email saying appointments have been made for all of you to get your hair done it's going to be around $50. Last I heard, and continued to assume, we were doing our own hair down. So I guess I was just a little surprised to just receive an email with the fixed apt. and cost and no discussion. Is this uncommon, or am I just frustrated by the additional cost? 

I suck. I know. 

And hey by the way. I know it's been a while. And as always, I read up on many of your posts...

pirategal03

I've never been *required* to have my hair professionally done to be in a wedding.  One bride offered to make appointments for us at the salon where she was having her hair done, but all of the bridesmaids didn't take her up on it. 

So no, I don't think it's common, I'd be a little taken back that the bride went ahead and made appointments without discussing it.  But I'd probably just suck it up and do it because I'm awful at doing anything with my own hair.

momofayden

I remember it being standard the bride says 'you're getting your hair done" and the BM pays for it.  But now I think the bride is supposed to give you the option and if they want you to have it done they are supposed to pay for it.

NcsuPsych

My girls are doing their own hair and makeup. . .I would say that there should have at least been a discussion about it.  Especially with the economy the way it is. . .not everyone has 50 bucks to just up and spend to get their hair done.

NcsuPsych

P.S. Kristy how are you liking CT? I miss it already. . .we'll probably move up that way in a few years. We have to stay at this house for at least 3 years since we got the new home buyer credit

Jemmessica

I think it depends on the area, and bride. I def. did NOT want my girls to have to pay for anything more than their dress (and it was SUPER cheap). I booked Elizabeth, and they decided if they wanted hair and/or makeup done, and they paid for it.

krispychikin

I did not require it - actually I said everyone can do their own (mainly because I had a morning wedding and there just wasn't time for everyone to get theirs done).

The only wedding I've been in the bride gave us the option of getting it done with her - I took her up on it but not all the BMs did. 

I think it's a bit of a bummer she didn't ask if everyone was interested before booking.

CJ4578

I don't want my BMs to have to stress about doing their own hair and makeup if they can't afford it, so I'm budgeting to pay for theirs. I'm not sure who we'll use yet, but worst-financial-case-scenario is the girls head off to the Aveda school and I use one of the board faves or go to my salon. I'd like us to all be together though, I just don't want them to be spending crazy amounts of money.

I think, nowadays, people sort of do whatever but I've never heard of people requiring you to do anything (besides the dress) and then pay for your own. If brides want a certain look (or don't trust their girls with makeup) and require a salon visit it's up to them to foot the bill, I think.

katebh

I've been in 5 (or is it 6? :P) and was required to get it done and pay for it myself for only one. For one the bride offered to make an appt. if I wanted one.

kgaliger

Do you think maybe the bride just assumed that everyone wanted their hair done at the salon.  If it was me I would just email her back casually and say thanks for taking the time to make appointments but funds are a little tight right now and I'm planning on doing my hair myself.  Bottom line if you're close enough to be in the wedding then you should be able to say thanks but no thanks and not expect her to take it personally.  I think she will more than understand if you let her know it's a financial decision and not that you don't want your hair done at a specific salon. 

We miss you!

tarheels1

Agree w/ PP...I would probably just email her and explain.  I've been in a number of weddings and usually it is presented as an option but never a requirement. 

sundrop24

I agree, maybe she just assumed yall would want appointments?  Its a little picky to insist everyone get their hair done and except the BM's to pay for it.

katherineUTC

I guess I was Bridezilla because I told my girls I "preferred" them to get professional hair done. Iol. I told them it didnt matter to me where they got it done, whether my hair/makeup artist did it, or whether they went to their own salon. I told them I would help subsidize the cost, since my person was pricey. When each of them researched salons, they found that my subsidized offer was the same, so all of them used my person for hair. I paid for all of their makeup as a gift. They all looked amazing, it was worth every penny. The situation IS very sticky. My maid of honor kept insisting that I didnt have to pay for anything, that this is all part of being a bridesmaid, etc etc. Other people (outside my bridal party) told me that I shouldnt make my girls pay for these things, etc. so it was a really weird situation, but it all worked out.

funkyfish42

I've only been in one wedding (out of 4) that I was required to get me hair styled professionally. All of the others the bride told us that she could schedule appointments for us with the salon that was doing her hair. I was somewhat shocked when the bride told us that we HAD to have our hair styled at her salon, and on top of that, she made us all wear the exact same hairstyle. I don't think it's the norm though...