To cake or not to cake??

nickikav

Hi everyone

Is it really bad to not have a wedding cake?

We already have chosen an amazing menu at The Cosmo which has loads of food including lobster and steak and isnt coming in cheap.

The problem is we know everyone will be stuffed and our cake which has to be made by The Cosmo is coming in at $840 and that is the cheapest option of cake we can have for our amount of guests (38), they range up to $1185!

We just cannot afford that, lots of weddings Ive been to hardly anyone east the cake anyway, do you think we still need to have one?

jccswl

Are you allowed to bring in a cake from an outside vendor?

If you're ok with not having the cutting of the cake then I don't think it would be a problem. I'd try to find other alternatives though. Like maybe have a something like the top tier of the cake, so that you and FI can cut then offer some sort of dessert.

nickikav

No we are not allowed to bring in our own cake from an outside vendor, also our menu does include a trio of desserts.

Can't say I've ever been to a wedding where they did not have a cake?

Like the idea of a cake topper though if we can do that?

jb51411

I will give you the motto that I have gone with this entire time. It's your wedding! You can do what you want! If you wanted to just do a cake topper you could put it at the table with your guestbook. With a trio of desserts already included I probably would not do a cake either.

wiwicaty

Cupcakes, maybe?

shaq123

 After a large meal most people do not eat the wedding cake , maybe you can have a small cake just for cutting.

aerinpegadrak

We did cookies from Toll House instead of cake.  Pics in bio.  I think as long as people get dessert, they're not really going to care what it is.

kteel717

If I was getting steak and lobster cake would be an after thought as a guest

nickikav

Thanks guys, you've all been really helpful!

downtownbebebrown

One of the joys to a wedding is the Cake and I look forward to YUMMY CAKE! I have been to a wedding in Beirut that only had a small non-trad desert and i was ok, and chaulked it up to "its another country" and i had a fun time dancing and forgot!

 Another in Greece that did not surve Cake, they gave Wedding Joradn Almonds after ceremony (which i ate asap) The worst was the Greek wedding b/c they did do a mini cake cutting and i thought, "oh they must have the rest in the back"...NOPE! I left early and did not dance as much.

I would say if you have a desert on the menu, you will be fine. 

But, Do not just do a mini cake for you and your FI. It will only make the guests (or at least the foodies) wonder where the rest is and get hopes up etc...

j_jaye

Is there a cake option listed for the desserts (as in not swapping it for the wedding cake but serving a normal cake)? Maybe you could get them not to cut it up and cut that instead and bring in a cake topper? If it is a chocolate cake with topping (think strawberries etc) it might work?