Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions

Ceremony help!

I am trying to put together a ceremony format because we are having a friend marry us who got ordained. I am a little confused about the intent and vows. Do you need both the "Do you take this person" and "I Do" section for intent and also to do the vows where you say "I take you to be my __." It seems to me that the vows show your intent and you don't need both but I could be wrong.

I hope I'm not coming off as an airhead but need help! My wedding is September 29th so it is crunch time!

Re: Ceremony help!

  • We also created our own ceremony, and we chose to do both a declaration of intent and marriage vows.  I don't think you would have to do both, but I just like the format of both. Here's how we are doing it: 

    Declaration of Intent

    TOM: Libby, do you take Ryan be your lawfully wedded husband, to share your life openly, standing with him, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and to love, so long as you both shall live?"

    LIBBY: I do

     TOM: Ryan, do you take Libby to be your lawfully wedded wife, to share your life openly, standing with her, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, in hardship and in ease, to cherish and to love, so long as you both shall live?

     RYAN: I do

    Exchange of Marriage Vows and of Rings

    TOM: Ryan, please place the ring on Libby’s finger and repeat after me.

    I, Ryan, take you, Libby, to be my lawfully wedded wife,

    my constant friend, my faithful partner, and my love from this day forward.

    In the presence our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow

     to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health,

    in good times and in bad,

    and in joy as well as in sorrow.

    I promise to love you unconditionally,

    to support you in your goals,

    to honor and respect you,

    to laugh with you and cry with you,and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live. REPEAT FOR LIBBY

     

  • It depends on your state.  In some states, yes.  If I read the law correctly, Michigan does not require it but you should check with someone who would know (ie county clerk).
  • Thanks so much! I like your format a lot Libby and may do something similar. Thanks DramaGeek for checking on Michigan law for me and thanks RetreadBride for your advice as well.

    Now, allow me to rant a little concerning consultiing the county clerk. I actually e-mailed the county clerk and she told me that she couldn't help me with questions of what is legal they just check the paperwork but to e-mail her if I have any more questions. Why? So she can not answer more questions?! Ugh!
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