Registering?

mrsguilbert42013

For those of you that are having a smaller wedding in Vegas, are you having a party of some sort following the wedding at home for those you couldn't invite?

That is our plan...

We also have a new house that we haven't 'housewarmed' yet so we are planning to have a reception/housewarming next July to follow our April wedding.

My question is, can we register for this party or is that not proper etiquette?  I asked on the invites board and the women were HORRIFIED that I'd even consider asking for gifts outside of a bridal shower, but I'm not doing a bridal shower or anything like that prior, and I think a destination wedding changes things a bit...

Thoughts??

Knottie1450123632

i think registering for a housewarming is fine... especially if pple are asking what you need

MNVegas

There will likely be some people who will want to give you a gift so I would do a small registry. If someone asks you about a registry or gifts, than you can give them the information, however, personally I would not include registry info with the invitations.

alexi120

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[QUOTE]For those of you that are having a smaller wedding in Vegas, <strong>are you having a party of some sort following the wedding at home for those you couldn't invite? </strong>That is our plan... We also have a new house that we haven't 'housewarmed' yet so we are planning to have a reception/housewarming next July to follow our April wedding. My question is, can we register for this party or is that not proper etiquette?  I asked on the invites board and the women were HORRIFIED that I'd even consider asking for gifts outside of a bridal shower, but I'm not doing a bridal shower or anything like that prior, and I think a destination wedding changes things a bit... Thoughts??
Posted by mrsguilbert42013[/QUOTE]

No, I am not.  If I can't afford to invite them to the wedding, I do not expect them to celebrate with me after the fact.  This appears to be gift grabby.  A couple of my friends have asked to throw a shower or "reception," but I have declined.  I would be insulted if someone did not invite me to the wedding, but invited me to buy them gifts.

I don't honestly know what proper etiquette would be for a housewarming, but I have not to been to one where the homeowners have registered.  When we purchased our home, we received several bottles of wine and a few gift cards.  If it were me, I would host a party, call it housewarming (only,) and not register for anything.  I don't think destination weddings change things quite that much. 

mrsguilbert42013

Okay so I guess registering it out!  Thanks for the feedback, I certainly don't want to appear greedy or rude.  However, I have been invited to bridal showers without being invited to the wedding and I don't think that is rude. 

I plan to word the inivitations to invite our friends and family to celebrate our marriage and our new home, I don't think there is any reason to cut the wedding recognition out.  Many of my friends and family were thrilled to know we are thorwing a party a few months later!

vegasgroom

The primary purpose of a reception is to thank your guests for attending your wedding, by giving them a party/meal/entertainment/etc. so I'd probably just call it a housewarming party and leave it at that.  Invite all the people you couldn't invite to your wedding and just make a big party out of it.

If this is your first house, I'm sure there will be guests who want to buy you a housewarming gift.  Perhaps set up a registry and only tell those who ask about what you need, if you have a registry, etc.  Then there's no chance of some getting the wrong impression.

Edit: Oops, none of the other replies were showing when I initially wrote the above; you already got the same advice from others.  I do like how our Vegas knotties give the advice in a nice manner; I'm sure the OP's post on the other one was not met quite as warmly lol.

SlymShaydy

Never send registry information in the invitation. 

That being said, I agree with the above poster to do a small registry for things you need, and give the info if anyone asks.  People might ask you or your parents/family about it, so I would have one just in case. 

mrsguilbert42013

Thanks!  Yes, I took a bit of a beating from the other boards....AS USUAL.  Oh well, at least I know now instead of having family thinking my mom raised a rude girl! 

alexi120

MNV and VG's suggestion of making a registry, but not providing it unless asked is a good idea.  If you feel recognition of the wedding is important enough to be included in the invitation, you should do it.  I just wouldn't call it a reception. 

mrsguilbert42013

Thanks Alexi120, that is just what I'll do   I want to be able to display my wedding pictures at the party since it will be a few months after, I should have them back from BW in time.  It just won't be a reception, but it will definitely be a party

Knottie1450123632

OP- i would say register maybe at 1 place nothing major that way if pple ask you can tell them here is where im registered and if nothing happens then no harm/no foul.  i just would put the registry info in the invite. 

btw- its tacky be invited to a bridal shower and not wedding.  my opinion

vegasgroom

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[QUOTE]btw- its tacky be invited to a bridal shower and not wedding.  my opinion
Posted by southerncutie[/QUOTE]

I agree since the shower often involves gifts and ideally should only include people you would want at your wedding too.

soontobehasrouni

lol @ HORRIFIED


everything horrifies them.

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[QUOTE]For those of you that are having a smaller wedding in Vegas, are you having a party of some sort following the wedding at home for those you couldn't invite? That is our plan... We also have a new house that we haven't 'housewarmed' yet so we are planning to have a reception/housewarming next July to follow our April wedding. My question is, can we register for this party or is that not proper etiquette?  I asked on the invites board and the women were HORRIFIED that I'd even consider asking for gifts outside of a bridal shower, but I'm not doing a bridal shower or anything like that prior, and I think a destination wedding changes things a bit... Thoughts??
Posted by mrsguilbert42013[/QUOTE]