ring bearer carrying real rings

Kate0558

Well I told my FI that the ring bearer normally just carries fake rings not the real ones and he thought that was the dumbest thing he's ever heard in his life. Like he's called the "ring" bearer for a reason if he's not gonna carry the rings then why are we even having one. Aye - idk cus its tradition. So his idea was to tie both of our rings onto the pillow and then walk down the aisle and hold up the pillow while the MOH and BM take off the rings. The ring bearer is my nephew owen who is 8. So he should be able to handle that much.

What do you think? Good idea - bad idea?

Avion22

This is about 10 posts down on the Customs & Traditions board.  It might answer some of your questions:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_letting-the-ring-bearer-carry-the-rings

mabrown5

I personally would not trust any child to hold onto our rings. We spent quite a bit on them and I would be horrified if they were somehow lost. I don't want to risk the kid losing the pillow/rings, having a fit and possibly throw away the pillow/rings, or simplying being too scared to walk down the aisle. I am unsure how trust worthy your nephew is or his personality, so the choice is between you and your FI. However, I would trust an adult a lot more with such an expensive and important part of the wedding. We are having our ring bearer hold fake rings because it is more of a symbolic part of the wedding than simply a young boy carrying real rings.

RamonaFlowers

Every single person I know that works in the wedding industry will tell you that letting a child (No matter how old they are) carry the real rings is just asking for trouble.

The ring bearer's job is the same as the flower girl's: looking adorable for the pictures. You can look just as adorable with fake rings, and not have to stress about them falling off the pillow or something.

heylady87

My "Ring Girl" is three, and will be carrying the real rings in a jar in a basket down the aisle. We'll put the rings in her basket at the last minute, and she'll walk straight to the best man and give him the jar. Worst case scenario, my dad carries down the rings when he walks me down the aisle.

mbuckley85

The deacon officiating our ceremony does not like the ring bearer to carry the rings. I may have ours do it anyway. He will be 8 at the time of the wedding. I also think its a bit paranoid to worry about what can go wrong. When I'm sure that 99.9 of the time everything works out fine.

Meghannsix

Our RB will be 8 at our wedding, and I think we're going to let him carry the real rings.  Not carry them around all day of course, but they'll be held onto by someone responsible, probably the best man, his dad, and then tied to the pillow right before the ceremony.   He'll walk down the aisle, and stand in front of 200 people.  I don't think they'll get lost, and if they fall off, we'll find them.

cwaggoner07

A lot depends on the age. I would have no problem with an 8-10 year old holding onto them, but any younger than that and you could be in for some trouble.

alintott

my ring bearer is 4 i never even thought about this but my band alone is expensive so im going to opt for the fake ones i think!

jyoung630

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[QUOTE]Well I told my FI that the ring bearer normally just carries fake rings not the real ones and he thought that was the dumbest thing he's ever heard in his life. Like he's called the "ring" bearer for a reason if he's not gonna carry the rings then why are we even having one. Aye - idk cus its tradition. So his idea was to tie both of our rings onto the pillow and then walk down the aisle and hold up the pillow while the MOH and BM take off the rings. The ring bearer is my nephew owen who is 8. So he should be able to handle that much. What do you think? Good idea - bad idea?
Posted by Kate0558[/QUOTE]

I think it all depends on the age and responsibility level of your RB.  My son is 16 and he is reprising his role as RB.  Since we know he has the ability to behave properly we are not afraid of having the real rings on the pillow.  However, we are tying the rings with a small bow each just in case he stumbles or something. 

Traditionally - the BM carries the real rings in his pocket and the RB does just either carry fakes or an empty pillow.  Still, it is up to you what you want for your wedding.    

abbitha7

I think it's fine if they carry the real rings, just make sure that they are secured. Our ringbearer is 5 1/2 and he will be carrying the real rings. They will be tied together with ribbon and put into a box that latches just to make sure.

EC88

Eight seems old enough to carry the real rings, just make sure they are tied on in case he trips or drops the pillow. You could also have him carry them in a box or something else that seems more secure. I the ring bearer in my wedding will be younger, so we will not use real rings, but if he were eight I wouldn't see it as a problem.

hkb18

I was at a wedding where the ring bearer freaked out and didn't make it down the aisle......and neither did the rings.  It was awkward when the best man had to walk to the childs mother halfway through the ceremony to get the rings when it was time to exchange them.....therefore my nephews will not be carrying our real rings.

harpsdesire

My RB is only 3.  I'm not giving him the real rings to carry because then if it's time to go down the aisle and he he's just not feeling it there'n no need to pressure him or have someone else run the rings down to us.  If he makes it down with the pillow, 'awww cute' and if not, no one will really know the difference.

Bonnie27

My ring bearer is going to be almost 11 when we get married.  He is also very mature for his age.  He is definitely going to carry our rings and he knows how important of a job this is. I fully trust him to take on this huge huge huge responsibility.

Shelskharma

At my FIs brothers wedding, the ring bearer made it down the aisle fine, but then they couldnt get them untied from the pillow! There was even talk at one point of trung to burn the ribbon with a lighter to get them off (since no-one at the alter was equipt with a knife at the alter!) Finally got them off, but Just sayin' its not foolproof! LOL!

Juleswcu

I say do what makes you comfortable.  The last think you want is to have it be worried about the rings on the actual day.  If there is an adult that can be in charge of them until the last minute I think it is fine to do what others said and tie them on at last minute.

NicoleLyn1218

That's a really cute idea to have it carried down in a jar!! Mason jar? Even better.


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[QUOTE]My "Ring Girl" is three, and will be carrying the real rings in a jar in a basket down the aisle. We'll put the rings in her basket at the last minute, and she'll walk straight to the best man and give him the jar. Worst case scenario, my dad carries down the rings when he walks me down the aisle.
Posted by heylady87[/QUOTE]