HUMMM....Kids??

stinkerbell6879

Ok so I come from a family where a "Kids Free" wedding is kinda a "No Go" but....I have kinda eluded (invites only addressed to parents)  to the fact that the wedding will be kid free and I got the WRATH of my mom....She is a foster parent and I assumed that the child (who is 5yrs.) would have to stay with another foster parent due to the fact that it's an out of state wedding. Well I basically got the No Kid, No Me attitude. Since this conversation I have just let  it go, but I will admit that I am feeling bridezilla about this, and not because I don't want kids there, I just feel that the venue is not appropriate and NOW I feel that I need to find away to make sure that the kids are entertained and in the Vista Suite that to me seems impossible....Plus everyone else has mentioned not bringing their kids.

So opinions? advise? I got the big girl panties on so you can tell me like it is!

aerinpegadrak

My mom was insisting that I had to invite my brother's step-daughters, even once I explained that there wasn't room to invite all of the kids and I couldn't make exceptions for my side and not FI's.  Finally, I cautiously asked my brother what he was planning on doing with the girls, and lo and behold, he had no intention of bringing them at all.

Our plan is to let people know that if they want to bring the kids to Vegas, they're welcome to, and we'll do our best to assist them with finding childcare for the ceremony and reception, because unfortunately we just can't accommodate them there.

But if your mom's kid is the only issue and no one else has any problems with kids staying home, it might be best to just make the exception, after you've reiterated your concerns that there will be no other children and nothing for her to do there, and that she'll be bored out of her skull and wishing she was back home.

jendbiker

I would suggest bringing a few childrens DVD's and toys, and create a place for them to play in one of the bedrooms. Aside from that, I would say just relax and accept that it will not be your job to supervise or entertain them. If people are bringing their children, they can take care of that themselves. I know it can seem like a chore or task to tackle the kid issue in a Vegas wedding, but everything will be fine. When I first learned that there would be a few young kids at the wedding/reception I had a bit of a panic moment myself, but then I just had to let it go and understand that their parents will parent them, and it's not going to be my job.

I figure we'll be so busy with everything else that we probably won't even notice that they are there.

stinkerbell6879

Thanks girls! I think what got me was how my mom got so upset at me! I am not usually one who would have had a kids free wedding, cause I love kids (I am a former Pre School Teacher) but at the time of setting the venue and everything there was no one who had small children. Plus anyone I know with kids, they are either older or not the type to want to bring them to Vegas. So....I am going to just take a deep breath and not worry

pamila51510

I am a girlscout leader of 3 troups and I live in vegas. I am having no kids. It was hard but I am only having 45 people at my wedding and I am not willing to increase it anymore than that. I have 3 daughters that will be in the wedding.  I am still not having any kids one of my best friends was shocked and acted offended I told her to consider it like a date night. Dinner and dancing and grown up people to hang out with.  

dvohnout

I totally understand where you are coming from. I addressed the invites to the parents only hoping people will get the hint, but a few family members are bringing their children. In the end, I decided not to make a deal out of it because if I had children, I may not want to travel out of state for the weekend without them. I did the same thing with people bringing guests--because I am asking people to travel, I am trying to be considerate of people not wanting to travel alone.

RachNRich

This is the same situation we found ourselves in. We addressed to parents only---even though Rich's friends have kids. When we got our RSVP's back, two couples had included their kids. I was not happy about this---Vegas just doesn't seem to be the place, and they weren't invited.

Rich talked me down from my rage---he said if they only way his friends could make it was to bring their kids, he'd much rather have them bring the kids than not come at all. I agreed. In the end, they've both decided to not bring the kids---so, I'm glad we didn't call and make a fuss!

guamibear

We are not having children outside of the flower girl and ringbearer. I am sticking to this. We have a limited budget and limited space and that's just it. If someone does indicate they are bringing their children, I plan on calling them and explaining our limitations.  

keana123

We have a similar siutation with many kids among our guests which is why we are having a Sunday wedding (kids have to go to school on Monday) and inviting by name as well. However, I do want me nieces to be there so we ar emaking them apart of the wedding so they have a reason to be there. Our reception suite has an ajoinign suite so we will bring rock band and order pizza for them.

ninaq06

As far as I know I have one little kid, one 16 yr old and 3 19yr olds. 2 of the 19 yr olds are a sibling of mine and one of Mark's. The other is my sisters travel  buddy. The other 2 younger ones are my cousins who are attatched to me like glue especially the youngest one I am his bff. So I am ok with them all being there but then again I am not having a suite reception lol.

ellenalabama

First how awesome of your mom to be a foster parent!  It takes a special person to do that.  If she has to bring the foster child I don't think that would be so bad.  As far as anyone else bringing kids I vote no!  It's Vegas not Disneyland.  I'm sure anyone else that goes (that has kids) and doesn't bring theirs will understand that it's your mom and why the exception was made for her!  Even when we were going to get married in our own town we were going to put "adult reception to follow" on our invites.  If someone would bring kids then they should know that it's up to THEM to keep them entertained and make them behave.

stinkerbell6879

Wow! Glad to know I am not the only one who has delt with this

Nina - Lol! Those are not kids!!! j/k! I think that older children would be fine, I am more worried about a poor bored 5 yr old! but like everyone pointed out....My mom will deal with it and it will be fine

Ellenalabama - Thanks! I agree I think it wonderful! The whole stupid conversation got started because I did not think it was "allowed" not so much I don't want kids there, and because of her reaction to my question I think things got blown out of proportion. 

miss_tammy06

I live out here in vegas, I do plan to have kids at my wedding and reception, but for those who are having kids and dont know what to do with them, there are places for kids to go and have fun some casinos have a kids zone where they have a play area for the lil ones and they also keep them company another is the adventure dome at circus circus and game works, but they would need to be with a chaperone* if you plan to party late.