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Is it wrong?

vfridayvfriday
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that I am not at all interested in formal family pics?  It probably is but here's the deal.  We get 20 pictures with our package.  I really only want the 20 we get, not interested in paying for any more given what I have heard about their prices. My must have shot list includes:
Groom when he sees me for the first time
Me walking down the aisle
our kiss
Presentation of the new Mr. & Mrs.

The rest of the ceremony is bonus.

FMIL asked if there will be time to touch up make-up before pics.  I assume she meant formals with the family.  My immediate family consists of my older brother and neice.  FI immediate family consists of his mom & sis.  (oh and spouse/ so of the siblings)  I really don't want to use my 20 pics on these shots.  We have an outside photog for prep and after ceremony with just us and the reception but I don't want to miss too much of my reception having him do the formals either.

The family is cool and all, but can't we just get some candids during the reception?  Am I trippin'?
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  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    edited December 2011
    Does your package inlcude the reception?  Our photo package with the ceremony ONLY includes the ceremony and like 30-60 minutes after.  No reception.

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  • aegrishaegrish member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you should slip in a few formal pics, if not for yourself to make your family and older relatives happy.  They most likely would like a few formal poses.  Candids during the reception may not get everyone, and certainly maybe not in their best pose.  Also, you may not want formal photos now, but years back you may look back and regret not having them to compare or share with others.  I think you should at least do a FEW, and a good way to keep it to a minimum is to have a shot list.  If you do them right after the cermony, you will barely notice them!  It should take only a few minutes if you have a shot list.
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  • NatrashaNatrasha
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    edited December 2011
    20 pictures... does that mean they will only snap the shutter 20 times in the whole wedding or you will get 20 physical printed pictures?

    My suggestions:
    If it's the latter, couldn't you spend 5 minutes on getting the shots, and then if family members want to purchase them, they can do that on their own.

    If it's the former, take 2 shots- one with all of your family, one with all of his family.
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  • vfridayvfriday
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    edited December 2011
    The package is for 1 hour including the ceremony.  I don't mind taking the pics. I just don't want to pay for them.  I would hate for FMIL's feelings to be hurt when she doesn't see any pics of the family all together at the chapel.  I probably wouldn't feel this way if my parents were there(both deceased).  I guess I need to suck it up and hope my tenants pay their rent in full and on time this month so we have a little extra income to buy the extras LOL

    The shot list is probably a good idea.  I have been working on one for Deacon Tyler ( our outside photog).  i might as well do one for the Cashman photog too.
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  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    edited December 2011
    Deacon can take formals of you too and you can get them from him.  We have both DT and the house photog for the ceremony and formals so they will be double shooting for that period of time.  I'll take my included pictures from the house photog and then extras I can print from the DT CD.
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  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    edited December 2011
    Also, your MIL can pony up for any pictures that she wants.
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  • aegrishaegrish member
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    edited December 2011
    Diddo Smokey.  I am printing photobooks as Christmas gifts for our parents , but if family or friends want their own prints I'll give them a disc and they can print them.  Our Outside photog is taking our formal shots. Although we are having Caesars photog take them after the ceremony as well, in case we like those better or someone misses the pre-ceremony formal photos.
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  • pizzanfries4mepizzanfries4me
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think its wrong to want only formal photos of you and your H. Thats exactly what we did (althought we had an extra 15 minutes on the chapel grounds and we took photos of all family and friends then)
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  • missjetsmissjets
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    edited December 2011
    Im so sorry you wont have your parents with you. My advice is to give your FMIL the pictures she wants...but put a limit on the time frame spent on these. 20 photos isnt much, so if you have another photographer that can do this in his time frame maybe that would work better. I just think that my FI's family is my family too and that it's important to capture the moment...and it will only be more special as time goes by. I understand how this moment (fomal pics with his family) will be bittersweet to you, really I do.

    I paid cashman the extra $125 for 20 mins of formal family photo's after our ceremony before we head out to get our hour of just FI and I. In total I get 36 photo prints. I have no idea how Im going to pony up the money for the rights...maybe I'll have to street walk a couple days this week :p

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  • aegrishaegrish member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:6f487eb7-a859-4fc5-acce-6b19cbd11878Post:033869ce-84c6-4795-9791-c1dbc2f3fe48">Re: Is it wrong?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Im so sorry you wont have your parents with you. My advice is to give your FMIL the pictures she wants...but put a limit on the time frame spent on these. 20 photos isnt much, so if you have another photographer that can do this in his time frame maybe that would work better. I just think that my FI's family is my family too and that it's important to capture the moment...and it will only be more special as time goes by. I understand how this moment (fomal pics with his family) will be bittersweet to you, really I do. I paid cashman the extra $125 for 20 mins of formal family photo's after our ceremony before we head out to get our hour of just FI and I. In total I get 36 photo prints. I have no idea how Im going to pony up the money for the rights...<strong>maybe I'll have to street walk a couple days this week :</strong>p Charity
    Posted by missjets[/QUOTE]

    LOL!  a lot of brides don't buy them and just scan the prints. 
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  • missjetsmissjets
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:6f487eb7-a859-4fc5-acce-6b19cbd11878Post:cc52ed37-8c48-44fc-936d-c468635b36d8">Re: Is it wrong?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it wrong? : LOL!  a lot of brides don't buy them and just scan the prints. 
    Posted by aegrish[/QUOTE]

    That's a good idea, but my package only come with 4X6 prints and I dont want them to scan funny. I'm going to try to see how much it would cost to upgrade to 5X7's and mabye buy a few 8X10 prints if I cant afford the rights.

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  • vfridayvfriday
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    edited December 2011

    FI hates having his picture taken.  Too many posed shots may be torture for him if I have DT do family formals too.  Compromise is so hard when dealing with the feelings of in laws.  All I know is FMIL better be photogenic Foot in mouth

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  • MarryingmyKnightMarryingmyKnight
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    edited December 2011
    Can some explain to me this rights thing?  I don't understand that.  We are getting 12 with out package and then an additional hour with 30 I thinkUndecided.  The addtional hour is an addtional 275 but we really want more than 12 that comes with our package so we are sucking it up.  Anyways rights info please????
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think it's wrong to not want to pay for formal family photos, hell, half of my family I didn't even want to invite lol.  That being said, since they're already coming, might as well grin and bear it and get the group shots taken, then you won't have to listen to them bitch about it later which is probably worse than taking them.

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  • vfridayvfriday
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    edited December 2011
    The photog should take way more than 42 pics.  Let's say they take 250 and you want them all, you have to buy a CD with them and the rights to reprint them yourself.  Basically you pay for the labor and the processing of the prints included and then with the rights you pay extra to do with the prints what you please.  Robbery!
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  • vfridayvfriday
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:6f487eb7-a859-4fc5-acce-6b19cbd11878Post:3f422a4b-996b-4643-ba7b-40c24d966199">Re: Is it wrong?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think it's wrong to not want to pay for formal family photos, hell, half of my family I didn't even want to invite lol.  That being said, since they're already coming, <font color="#999999"><strong>might as well grin and bear it and get the group shots taken, then you won't have to listen to them bitch about it later which is probably worse than taking them.</strong>
    </font>Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

    RIGHT!

    Does Cashman provide a link to give to guests so that they can purchase what they want?  If so, problem solved right?
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  • MarryingmyKnightMarryingmyKnight
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you vfriday.  Yeah guess I will just be choosing 42 nice pics. Lol!  I'm surely not buying any rights.  Aren't they thousands of dollars? Yup! Neagtive on that. lol!
    If they provide a link...problem solved.
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:6f487eb7-a859-4fc5-acce-6b19cbd11878Post:d73b8453-90c5-4366-9cd6-021e3d1f3ee1">Re: Is it wrong?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you vfriday.  Yeah guess I will just be choosing 42 nice pics. Lol!  I'm surely not buying any rights.  Aren't they thousands of dollars? Yup! Neagtive on that. lol! If they provide a link...problem solved.
    Posted by MarryingmyKnight[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, Cashman digital rights SUCK; they average about $800 to $1000 per hour of photography.

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  • AJF021410AJF021410
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    edited December 2011
    I feel the same way! I think I'm going to have Todd take the formal pics before or after the ceremony but I want to get some cute shots with Cashman since I am obligated to use them.....not much of a fan of formal photos at all....
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  • LilMissScareAllLilMissScareAll member
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    edited December 2011
    Since your immediate family is so small just take a few shots. If you got one formal one with his mom & sis and one formal shot with your brother & niece, that still leaves you with 18 shots. Minus the 4 "must have" shots you mentioned. So still another 14 pictures available for whatever from the ceremony

    or

    Have DTyler take your formal shots. If your immediate family is that small, it shouldn't take more than 15 minutes time. 

    I think, in this case, you should appease FMIL. I prefer candid shots, but I know the older people in Fi & my families would prefer the more traditional style photos. DTyler is also my photographer, so I figure between Deacon & Sarah we can knock them out quickly and get on to the partying. Also going to try to get as many done as we can before the ceremony.
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  • MarryingmyKnightMarryingmyKnight
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:6f487eb7-a859-4fc5-acce-6b19cbd11878Post:68dc8c33-d3d5-47eb-a3b2-276882b5b369">Re: Is it wrong?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it wrong? : Yeah, Cashman digital rights SUCK; they average about $800 to $1000 per hour of photography.
    Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

    Guess I won't be buying rights. Lol!  Not paying $1000 for rights.  Thanks for the info Vegasgroom!
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