So, just to preclude this post, my FI and I are eloping to Vegas - him, me, his mom, his brother. My mom is not able to come for other reasons not gonna get into, but nothing personal - its my second wedding, shes very far away, not able to travel. shes still excited etc.
I have a 2.5 year old daughter. I made the choice to not include her in the Vegas trip because 1. shes two. 2. she wont remember being there. 3. Its not a "wedding" where everyone is oohhing and aahhing and a basket of rose petels. 4. we are planning a "renewal" next year in which she absoultly will be part of. 5. If i did take her, it would cost a fortune for an in-house hotel sitter (45 bucks an hour, if you wanna know lol). 6. While vegas is "kid friendly" i have never been to vegas and i want to be able to spend all night at the casino or whatever. Plus, its tech my honeymoon.
My mom feels that I am setting my daughter up to "resent me" whens shes older and realizes she wasnt there. That I will hate myself for not having her there with me. That I am not including her in "becoming a family" and not allowing my daughter and FI to "bond" at that moment of becoming a family. My mother feels that I am being "selfish" for wanting to, as I told her, "enjoy myself, have late nights and enjoy drinking for once" (I NEVER drink when I have my daughter around, and rarely when I dont, for the simple fact that its not exactly a good idea to be hung over and dealing with a very active 2 year old)
My daughter will be with her dad while we are in Vegas (in case anyone was wondering where she was going to be, exactly lol). We are doing this elopment in between my hectic work sched and his deployment sched.
So, of course, i feel extreamly guilty about it - I talked to FI about the option, and he is fine with it, but it means buying another airline ticket, paying for babysitters when we wanted to go out (shows, casinos etc etc) which really really adds up...not saying she is not worth it, but FI made a point that he didnt even rememer his own moms 2nd marraige when he was 7.
So, do you think its a good idea to just figure out how to logisticly make it work by taking her, or leave it as is and try not to feel guilty about her not being there?
Am i being selfish or smart? :-/