Worries about Reception

direy25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worries about Reception : I  didn't even think of that....You have a lot of guests coming for a DW, with 77!
Posted by aegrish[/QUOTE]
And those are just the guests who have sent back their reply cards - we have at least 10 more that have booked their hotel but haven't replied yet...
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specialjune

cheer up, I think people were trying to help. What I noticed on these boards is that the tone of some peoples post may come off harsher than others but I dont think it is meant to sound that way. I dont have much money either, that is why Im tying the knot next year. For me vegas is cheaper because I wont have all of those people there, and dont have to figure out who I will and will not invite. Its easier to feed 25 pple than it is for me to feed 100. I figure i will spend 5k (ceremony and dinner only) and if I did it at home I would spend minimum 3x that amount

singer82

Thank you ladies. I am having a really hard time with money and am overly sensitive esp. right now, so I'm so sorry for the misunderstanding.

I know for sure that 10 are coming. Thats the number I'm sure of. Thats parents, mine and his best friends. So i'd say at least 20-25.

I emailed my wedding planner and she said it didnt cost anything to change the time. So I asked her what times are available earlier on in the day. I think thats definately best. The Rio buffet is $27.99 per person for lunch, which is doable.

What do you ladies think about a personal bank loan? Is that a bad idea? I dont know how those work exactly.

direy25

Please don't take this the wrong way, but if you're having money issues already, I really wouldn't suggest taking out a loan for the wedding.  Is it really important that you do this right now?  Could you postpone the wedding to a later date so that you have more time to save?  FI and I have been saving for a year & a half to be able to afford the wedding we want without going into any sort of debt.  I have some friends who got married over two years ago and are STILL trying to pay off their wedding.  I just can't imagine starting our lives together with that hanging over our heads. 

smokeybailey

SpecialJune-you could just shorten your guest list if you are having it at home.  It's the same reason, I'm sorry, but I am having a very small wedding of only 25 people.  I'd love to invite the world, but I can't."

Singer-personal loan = bad bad bad idea.

How is $27.99 doable for 30 people?  With tax and tip that's well over a thousand dollars.  Even at 20 guests it's almost $700.  I guess if you are planning on only the 12 people (10 guests plus you), then you are under $500 but are you inviting only 10?  if not, you should really plan for the worst case scenario, IMO.  If that is 30 guests (plus you?  then 32), you should budget for that. I assume you will not be hosting cocktails?

singer82

Good points. The thought of waiting has def crossed my mind for sure. But part of my family has already booked rooms and took time off, so we cant change it. I cant cancel on them.

The loan was a bad idea I know. Just a thought.

My best bet is to look off of the Strip like some have suggested. Thats one thing I love about Vegas is the many options. 

And Like some of you have said, I'm going to cut my list. I dont see any other way. I didnt send out any STD's, I've just told people when and where the wedding is. I'll explain it to them, I'm sure they will understand.

emskubie

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[QUOTE]Good points. <strong>The thought of waiting has def crossed my mind for sure. But part of my family has already booked rooms and took time off, so we cant change it. I cant cancel on them.</strong> The loan was a bad idea I know. Just a thought. My best bet is to look off of the Strip like some have suggested. Thats one thing I love about Vegas is the many options.  And Like some of you have said, I'm going to cut my list. I dont see any other way. I didnt send out any STD's, I've just told people when and where the wedding is. I'll explain it to them, I'm sure they will understand.
Posted by singer82[/QUOTE]

Not meaning to weigh in on the ettiquette, and I'm certainly not suggesting what you should or shouldn't do in this situation...  However, life experience has taught me that one can always postpone or cancel a wedding if it doesn't work at that time.  Most hotels give the majority of the money back, and most employers are fine with you not taking days off.  It's better to do a wedding that is centered on your mutual love and your family.  Having a wedding that feels right to you is far more important than rushing to do something because you have reservation.

singer82

The reservation is def not the only reason  We have been together for a long time and are very excited to get married in July in our fav vacation place. My FI reassured me that money-wise we will be fine. He always seems to know how I am and knows how to calm me down. Getting the cheapest ceremony package def is going to help us. And we already got that paid off.

In LIlmissscaredall's post she mentions the M Resort. I checked it out and I think we might have found a winner. If we are able to change it to lunch time its $14.99 pp on the weekday of our Wedding (Thurs) and it includes beer and wine. FI says we can do it.

I want to again apoligize about my reaction. I have a tendency to make situations bigger than they are. And am quick to get offensive. You have all been nothing but honest and I appriciate all your help.

LilMissScareAll

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[QUOTE] In <em><strong>LIlmissscaredall'</strong></em>s post she mentions the M Resort. I checked it out and I think we might have found a winner. If we are able to change it to lunch time its $14.99 pp on the weekday of our Wedding (Thurs) and it includes beer and wine. FI says we can do it. .
Posted by singer82[/QUOTE]


Lil Miss Scare All, as in "Black #1" by Type O Negative, thank you very much.

And just a reminder: the M is a ways off the strip. You should probably try to arrange some sort of transportation for your guests if you are going this route. Or arrange to go at the time of the free shuttle. A taxi ride would not be cheap, at all!
If you can find it in your budget, their are many limos/ shuttle busses that will hold a group of your size. I recommend calling a few and checking out prices.

j_jaye

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worries about Reception : Lil Miss Scare All, as in "Black #1" by Type O Negative, thank you very much. And just a reminder: the M is a ways off the strip. You should probably try to arrange some sort of transportation for your guests if you are going this route. Or arrange to go at the time of the free shuttle. A taxi ride would not be cheap, at all! If you can find it in your budget, their are many limos/ shuttle busses that will hold a group of your size. I recommend calling a few and checking out prices.
Posted by LilMissScareAll[/QUOTE]

We are having our reception at the M Resort Studio B Buffet but at dinner time. They have been really easy to work with but be warned there is no reservations (they will do a line pass if you email the manager but everyone has to enter at the same time) and they cannot gaurantee seating together on a Fri/Sat/Sun as it is a packed out buffet. They will also let you bring a cake in fom their onsite bakery babycakes who have also been good to work with so far. If you have any questions let me know.

FYI- LilMiss I asked about the supposed free shuttle and I was informed by the hotel that it is actually only for hotel guests. We are arranging return transport for our guests as yes it is way way way down the strip.

missy68

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[QUOTE]Ya I know, some very good ideas. Some just made me feel worse about my situation is all. I KNOW I have to host my guests. Not paying is not an option at all. I agree. Thought I could come here and make some friends. But I am very sensitive, guess thats my downfall here.
Posted by singer82[/QUOTE]

Singer, if you yourself have rented a suite or larger room, you can host the reception there, if your attendance is small. Then you can bring in your own food and cake and beverages; the normal no outside caterers rule doesn't apply. This is what we did. We had 20 guests at our wedding; my parents had a suite, and that's where we did cake, drinks, and light snacks. We took everyone to dinner afterwards, but my father generously took the bill for that. You could do something similar with a buffet. I got married in a cocktail dress, not a wedding dress, and my H wore a coat and tie and khaki pants.
The cake wasn't super expensive, and the baker was awesome. Cake was the best I'd ever had.
I think when all was said and done, between flights, hotel stay, package, cake, dinner, drinks, snacks, we spent less than $5000 (or close to it, since I didn't see the dinner bill).

singer82

Welp we have a plan now. My FI Mom gets comps and can get us discounts for the buffet at the RIO! I can just give her the money for everyone.  And they told her to just call the morning of and tell them how many people and they will reserve a spot for us. YAY

direy25

Glad you were able to work something out!

singer82

Thank you so much! :) I'm finally starting to be excited. I've been so stressed about everything and am starting to just look forward to the marrying the greatest man I've ever known.



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[QUOTE]Glad you were able to work something out!
Posted by direy25[/QUOTE]

direy25

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[QUOTE]Thank you so much! :) I'm finally starting to be excited. I've been so stressed about everything and am starting to just look forward to the marrying the greatest man I've ever known. In Response to Re: Worries about Reception :
Posted by singer82[/QUOTE]

Marrying the one you love really is the most important thing.

sukie1220

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Worries about Reception : No no no.  This is completely inappropriate.  Who does this????  The people who TRAVEL to your wedding should get treated to food and beverage post ceremony. Just because you are in Vegas, you don't have the right to be rood.  Regardless of whether it "fits you and stresses you out the least." Oh and I have asked before, if you can afford an AHR, why can't you afford a reception?  Kill the AHR and HOST YOUR GUESTS as a gracious host should.  Good god, people.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

I totally agree.  I would be very upset with the bride and groom if I spent money and time (vacation days from work, etc.) to fly to their wedding and not even be given one meal.  It would be better to elope or cut the list down significantly.

BTW, what's an AHR?

sukie1220

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[QUOTE] I feel even worse than I  did before. I am crushed that I cant have a reg wedding. I've been a stressed sad mess and came here for some help. I just wanted some ideas.
Posted by singer82[/QUOTE]

Singer82 - I'm sorry you felt attacked.  I think you have to take responses on internet boards with a grain of salt (I'm learning that quickly through my own experience). The fact is, with the information you provided (30 people, $500 budget), it would be very difficult to come up with good reception suggestions.  Even an in-suite reception might be tough to pull off with that budget.  I think the PPs were just trying to get you to see it from a different POV.  I know, personally, I would be very upset and disappointed if I spent money to fly to a wedding, pay for hotel, bring a gift, take time off of work, etc. and not even get a decent meal.  I don't even need the liquor but a $13 wouldn't cut it given how much was spent to celebrate their special day.

Don't get discouraged just rethink your guest list and rethink your budget and finances.  Also, there really is a lot of GREAT advice on this board.  These ladies really know their stuff.  One piece of advice, be sure you THOROUGHLY search the board for relevant responses to your questions before you post.  It can be discouraging to post something and then have 20 people respond (usually rather sarcastically) that the question has been answered a thousand times.  Good luck to you. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

ETA - Glad to see that you have resolved your reception issues.  Congrats and good luck!

singer82

Thank you very much! I just overreacted in my crazy emotions as of late. I misunderstood some things, and I get what everyone was trying to say now Thanks for all your help ladies