plus ones

hlumbf2010

Is it ok to send out an invitation only inviting that person and not a plus one? I don't know the proper etiquette for this.
 Thanks!

dancr214

I think it is perfectly acceptable to send out invitations only inviting the person and not a plus one.  I did some research on this and I kept reading iIf they are engaged, living with a significant other, or they have been dating someone for a while, they should ge a plus one.  For our wedding, a  lot of our friends are not in relationships and I was not going to give them a plus one just so they could bring their "flavor of the week."  We wanted people at our wedding that we knew and were special to us, not just some  person off the street.  Hope that helps!

alliegator8

We are definitely doing the only you invites.  We are going to write out the invites with just the person's name who is invited.  Our group of friends have been to enought weddings together that we all know the deal when it comes to write ins.  So I amn not expecting too many problems.
 
We are also doing RSVPS online. So we are going to limit people to just checking there names with something that nicely says sorry no write ins.

shigaites

Yeah we're doing the same as Allie.  Online RSVPs and invites with just the names of the people invited on the card.  Luckily for us pretty much all of our guests are out-of-towners so I doubt they'd pay to fly in a plus 1 anyway.

andrea01012009

i think asking someone to go stag is uncourteous.  it's just setting up the event for people to eat and run. 

i'd cut that friend list in half and allow the most serious friends to bring guest. 

wlfpkbride

We're definitely doing this. We have a few out of state friends that won't know anyone else at the wedding so we will give them a plus one. I know everyone is supposed to either get one or not get one...but we're doing what we think is best for our group of friends and our budget.

Jodipi314

We're also doing this.  I have a ton of guy friends from up north who don't have girlfriends and are all really good friends anyway, so why let them bring a random stranger to the wedding?  Our cutoff is, if you're engaged or you're in a serious relationship (more than 6-8 months) then you get a plus one, but if you're not, you'll have plenty of other friends at the wedding htat you can hang out with.  No one will end "going stag" because they will all know most of the other people there anyway.  The only exception to that rule we made was for older cousins; I have 2 in the +30 age who aren't married or have significant others, but they would be lonely or bored without a guest to bring because they won't have a ton of mutual friends there. 

shigaites

That's true.  It really depends on the people in question.  All of our friends are friends with our other friends, so we have nothing to worry about as far as that goes.  If anything I think the random plus 1s would be the people bored lol.

LVCK

I'm also pretty much doing case-by-case. There are only one or two that I'll write so-and-so and guest.... other than those, I will write out the invites to exactly who I know their guest would be.

CJ4578

Definitely totally fine- if we're friends with the significant other we invite them, or if they are in a long-term relationship/engaged. And we write that person's name on the inner envelope with the intended guest's name so they know to bring THAT person. I don't want my FI's cousin to break up with his long-term girlfriend and think it's cool to just bring a date in her place (happened before at another wedding...)

HTH!