one of my girlfriends has a husband who is a videographer who offered to tape our wedding as a gift. the problem is, i don't like his style and plan to hire another videographer. i am sure if i tell her that i have a videographer (even though i dont yet) she will ask who. what is the proper way to handle this? i am also afraid that if i say that i want him to enjoy the wedding day he might just say he has more fun taping. how should i handle this?