Let me start off by saying that my future mother in law and I get along great and I would never do anything to hurt her. My fiancee is in the military, he signed on to pay for medical school and only owes and few years to pay back what the government paid for his school and then then he'll start his own practice. I've never been one to drool over a man in uniform and when it came down to deciding what everyone is wearing, he said he wants to wear his dress uniform because he had it and it was free. This idea honestly disgusts me. I'm marrying the man i've spent the last 8 years of my life with, the funny, quirky nerd I fell in love with, not some military guy that lives and breath military. Nothing about this wedding is military. After a few days of trying to convince him that a tux was a better choice (since renting them with a bunch of others he gets his rental for free anyway). His sisters husband is also in the military (different branch) and that's his job since before they met and he didn't wear his uniform when they got married.
So, I'm emailing his mom pictures of the venue and asking about her side of the guest list and she asks me if he's wearing his dress uniform or not. I tell her what I just told you only not so harsh words. This is what she writes back, "
Oh ok. I was kinda hoping he would wear the uniform. I would be so proud to see him get married in uniform. It is a sentimental gesture and a way to honor my Dad who was also Navy. I deeply respect and admire our Military personnel! (his sister) didn't like the idea either, so i understand The tux is probably more comfortable to wear." ef. Now I feel guilty for not wanting him to wear it. My dad was in the army but I feel no special connection with it. Suggestions?