from October 2011 to who knows when :(

blu2green77

     Well I found out today that my FI now wants to wait until 2012 to get married - for lots of reasons that I understand but I'm still a little down about it. I love him & I'm ready to get married but since it isn't just MY day, its OUR day -  if he feels we should wait then I guess we wait.

     My parents of course are willing to pay for the wedding but my dad wants to retire soon & I didn't want to put the burden of a wedding expense on them after he retires.

     FI is kind of dead set on getting married at Mackinaw for some reason & since he is a guy who only does what he wants to do when he wants to do it, it must mean something to him to have it there - right??

     FI is willing to pay for the wedding he wants so I guess I should be happy that he wants something special, beautiful & obviously meaningful to him,  I should also be happy that he is willing to take the financial burden off my parents.

     Still makes me kind of sad that now all my excitement has been deflated.

andyandhillary

I'm sorry to hear about all this.  At least it isn't cancelled, right?

I would suggest you two sit down at this time and talk about what you both want and compromise.  Do you want your wedding in Mackinac?  I get the "do what I want!" type personality but he should listen to your concerns and opinions.  I think it might also be a good time to talk about who is paying for the wedding and get that squared away. 

In the mean time you can still plan the fun parts like colors, themes, flowers, etc!  That was my favorite part!  Good luck with everything! 

chestr22

Just wrote you a really long response to your other post. I hope you guys to figure out a date. My FI and I waited 4 years, finally getting married in just a few weeks! Time did fly though!

AmoroAgain

We waited two years to get married.  It's really okay!   I understand being a little upset about it, but think of all the GOOD reasons you're doing this.  You aren't taking any money from your parents who will probably need it for their retirement.  Saving up and paying on your own means no one gets to tell you what to do!

If the ONE THING your FI wants for this wedding, is to demand the location, I say let him.  Most likely, that's the only thing he's going to care about, and the rest of it is going to come from you.  I thought my H would be more involved because he's really into design-y stuff, but really, he cared about the suit, had a little input on the invites, and designed our cake, and that was it. 

And think of it this way, you won't have to drive yourself crazy thinking about all these details right away.  You have plenty of time to do everything in.