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Shower Vent. Kind of long

Re: Shower Vent. Kind of long

  • Aks3131Aks3131 member
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    Sorry for any typos! I'm on my phone lol
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  • rachel801231rachel801231
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    I would be upset too.  I'm really not sure how to handle this situation other than to tell her exactly how you feel, that way she doesn't do this in the future with something such as  a baby shower.   I would have felt completely akward if I was at a bridal shower and all that were there were FI family.  Hopefully everything gets resolved. 
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  • jml1981jml1981
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    Does she know that your family isn't throwing a shower for you? I've had friends that have had showers thrown on each side, but never without inviting all the parents of course. I don't know if I would confront her myself. Maybe your FI can talk to her? I don't have any help for you, but maybe you could keep it quiet and if people ask, tell the truth, that his mother planned it as a suprise and only did it for his side. That's not your fault, so I don't think people would be upset at you at all. I would be upset if my mom wasn't at my wedding stuff either... 
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  • a+b=u&mea+b=u&me member
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    If I were you, I would make your FI tell his mother how you feel, but in "his words". Would that make sense? Like, if he's talking to his mom. Have him ask, "Why wouldn't you invite her parents?" Maybe she did talk to your mom, and your mom knew you didn't want one, so she told his mom go ahead and throw one for her.... Does your mom know that you did have a shower, and if so, how does she feel?

    I feel like this is a sticky situation, but you need to talk to your FMIL about it, or have your FI talk to his mom for you. Regardless, it clearly bothers you, so its not good to keep your feelings bottled up.

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  • LoverBean27LoverBean27 member
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    I would maybe just mention in the future if they ever throw you a surprise shower to please include your parents. That way no one finds out that you were upset and didnt want it, but they know you were upset your mom and dad werent there.
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  • mrsmustard12mrsmustard12 member
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    I would be bummed as well!  Although since she did go through the trouble of throwing one, I probably wouldn't say anything.  If I were you I would have called my mom and vented to her and told her how much I missed her there!
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  • Aks3131Aks3131 member
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    Thanks for the advice ladies :)
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