How hard is it?

w+c3

So I just need to get this out lol. My FI is really lacking in the romance dept lately....not that he is ever exactly mr. romantic but there isn't even effort. I realize that I am a woman so I know what women like, BUT I also feel like 1/2 of my ideas of romance were shaped by movies and the media growing up and such. EVERY WOMAN LOVES FLOWERS....how hard is it to stop on your way home from work every once in a while and grab a bouquet? Or hell even a single rose. Flowers are sort of a lost cause...I think the last time I got flowers was Valentines 2 years ago and he waited til the last minute and got them from WalMart and they died in 2 days ha. Or my weakness is food...Bring me home a mini cheesecake or my favorite candy.

I just can't understand why men pretend not to know the things to do!!!!

Can I say grrrr???

femmepink

My FI will basically do anything he knows I want, and he CAN be romantic, but I totally have the same problem as you here. I don't just get random flowers or awesome food he knows I'd love.

I do chalk it up to being a guy and thinking about "guy" things. He thinks he's good to me in so many other ways (which he is), so he thinks flowers are a stupid way of "showing" his love. Sometimes guys are just more practical? I don't know! haha

Carykay

Im sorry girl I hope it gets better.   Im not in that boat anymore.  I think my FI finally learned.  He is so good about suprising me with things.  He isnt helping with the wedding planning but He makes up for it other ways.  Im seeing that now.  Dont get to upset with him. They are men and sometimes need to be reminded of things.

kamarks08

The one and only time FI ever brought me flowers was when he proposed. Oh joy. Sure would be nice to get some for no reason.... Lol

bethmerchant

My FI & I actullay tiffed a bit about this subject the other night. He point blank told me, "just tell me what you want me to do." What fun is that? So tonight I'm sitting by myself watching Say Yes to the Dress while he's an hour away with a friend watching a basketball game I wasn't invited to. Yes, I'm bitter, but I know he truley loves me and that's what matters the most. It's not the "things" that matter it's the moments.

elidellio

Haha. I was actually thinking this exact thing today. I've worked close to 55 hours this week and had obligations almost every evening. Since havent had any time, the kitchen is a mess with dishes piled everywhere and there are clothes all over the bedroom. He, on the other hand, had Tuesday and today off and has only worked about 20 hours. Wouldn't it be logical for him to clean up a little as a thoughtful surprise? Apparently not!! I even tried to hint at it today saying how overwhelmed I was by the housework and how tired I am after a long week. Instead of offering to do it, though, he says "Don't worry baby. You can just take care of it tomorrow!" I'm like are you effing kidding me?!? I KNOW he is not that dumb. Lol

w+c3

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[QUOTE]Haha. I was actually thinking this exact thing today. I've worked close to 55 hours this week and had obligations almost every evening. Since havent had any time, the kitchen is a mess with dishes piled everywhere and there are clothes all over the bedroom. He, on the other hand, had Tuesday and today off and has only worked about 20 hours. <strong>Wouldn't it be logical for him to clean up a little as a thoughtful surprise? Apparently not!!</strong> I even tried to hint at it today saying how overwhelmed I was by the housework and how tired I am after a long week. Instead of offering to do it, though, he says<strong> "Don't worry baby. You can just take care of it tomorrow!"</strong> I'm like are you effing kidding me?!? <strong>I KNOW he is not that dumb. Lol
</strong>Posted by elidellio[/QUOTE]

Bahaha I had to laugh out loud!! How true! I go to school and now I work, but anyways  this semester I had a friday night clinical and I was literally gone from 8a-8p that day. And I would think every Friday on my drive home wouldn't be so nice if he folded his clothes in the laundry, did one load of dishes or hell just had dinner ready?? Nope every time I would come home and to a mess. I feel like women are trained to be thoughtful and do nice things and men aren't taught anything.

I will NOT raise my sons like that. lol

jbrook12

I am with you on ths flower things, how hard is it. The last time I was surprised with flowers was after his on-call week this May. It was a rough week will calls at all hours. It was sweet and I loved them. The other day we got a coupon in the maill to get $10 off a floral order and I just put it in his lunch box as a hint. I doubt that he even noticed it. I personally think it would be a nice thing to say thanks for planning a wedding while I hunt and stuff all the time, I am not holding my breath. My FI wouldn't know romance if it hit him in the face.