Omg. Serious Vent.

brittandjp

First of all, hi friends! I haven't been around for a few days, I've just been too busy and I know that when I come on here I spend WAY too much time. So, I've been on somewhat of a hiatus. Anyway, I seriously need to biitch for a minute. Please bare with me..

So, I'm still super close to a handful of girls from high school. These girls are either in my wedding party of invited to the wedding. Then, I'm still friends with a few others, only not as close. I invited about 10 of these guests to my wedding, both girls and guys. Well, one of the guys (J) asked if he could bring another guy (B) as his "date." His reason was because they (this group of 10 girls/guys) wanted to use his limo for the wedding night (he's a little bit of a baller and owns his own limo). Well, had you asked me 8 years ago, in high school, I would have said yes without a doubt. I was really good friends with B during that time. However, I haven't seen or spoken to B in at least 6 or 7 years. Therefore, my answer was no. We weren't allowing guests that weren't in relationships at this time, yadayadayada. He made it seem like no big deal, although I still felt bad.

Fast forward two weeks to today. I get a text from one of the 10. She happens to be my hair dresser, doing my hair the day of the wedding, the younger sister of one of the other girls in the 10, and a friend. We're not super close by any means, I'd probably even call us more acquaintances than anything. She isn't dating anyone. She didn't get a guest and didn't try to RSVP with a guest. Well, she just asked if she could bring B as her date. She said he could eat off her plate. ARE YOU FCKING KIDDING ME!!? No. You can't bring him. They're still trying to go about getting B to come to my wedding so they can use his limo as their ride. Sorry, that's not going to happen. I'm beginning to feel like a few of these guests aren't coming for me, but instead the amazing wedding and party we're about to throw and of course the complete open (beer, wine, and liquor) bar. I told her we already turned in our head count to the caterer and baker. We've already made and printed the seating chart. Sorry, but it's officially too late.

I just can't believe the nerve of some people. I told this group no and I now feel like their conspiring against me to get this guy to come to the wedding. Now, I feel like they're all probably gossiping about me and now I'm pissed. I am seriously regretting some of these invitations. :

ralbro

Personally, it sounds to me as they're trying to use this guy for his limo and that's all. I wouldn't worry about it, since no one seems to care if he was there if not for the limo. It's YOUR wedding. If you haven't talked to him in that many years there's no reason for him to get an invite. I think your response about already having all the numbers in was appropriate and should get your point across. It's the easiest/most valid reason.

kostyalya

How annoying! I agree, though, sounds like they're just using the guy for his limo. This is your wedding and you have every right to say no about this particular guest. And while I can understand someone asking if it's ok to include him as a "date," they need to respect your response, especially at this late date. I think it's pretty rude of people to try and work it so they can get him in AFTER you said no. It's not their wedding -- it's yours! So what if someone whines -- when they have their wedding, they can invite him. :P

w+c3

Sounds like that is everything that makes up the ridiculousness of wedding guests. Seriously some people are so rude. And like the "he can eat off of my plate" comment is fucking insane. I would probably just send pipe bombs to their mailboxes. I feel like that is what I am going to do to the next person that RSVPs to my wedding with 2 weeks left.

bdgrl73

Seriously!!! People are so rude when it comes to weddings...I just don't understand...and I would be super pissed, so, good for you for sticking to your initial NO...