*Rant*

ashley925

Does anyone else feel like they'd be better off just doing everything themselves? I'm really trying to fight the bridezilla inside right now. Everyone has such insane schedules and it's hard to find time for me plus whoever I need for whatever day to just get together and get sh*t done! I've been so quite and meek this entire time but now I can feel the fire breathing dragon awakening. How do you guys cope with being fed up with crappy schedules and people who ask you to throw them pity parties instead of just trying to work with you?! *Screams*

arrestclementine

I'm not really sure what you're venting about?  I didn't ask/request anyone to help me with anything...  No one really offered either but had they offered I'm not sure I would have taken them up on it just because I feel bad for getting help from anyone ever.  But that's just my personality.

Do you have a list of things that are MUST haves and things that would be nice to have but won't necessarily matter?  That will really help you in prioritizing and making sure those necessities are taken care of.  But really you have almost 2 months, and depending on what you're looking at doing yet that is still a lot of time!

rachel801231

Same as PP, not really sure what you are getting at.  I too am planning most things in my own.  I don't expect anyone else to help me other than FI because it's OUR wedding.  Now if they want to help then that's great.  I never went into this expecting help and I know what needs to be done and have been working on things since the day we got engaged.  I would suggest making a list as well.  Put what has to be done at the top and those things you could essentially have a wedding without, at the bottom of the list then go from here.  Even if your getting married at the beginning of march, you still have a month to get things done.  So take a deep breath, relax and start making a list and getting your FI on board to help.

jml1981

I did almost everything myself and that's what I wanted. I know all my people are busy with their lives so I didn't want to burden anyone when I have the time to do it myself. FI helps me here and there and my sister helped me with putting the invitations together to mail out. My mom is doing the centerpieces (because she's craftier than me and retired) All I have left are welcome basket and the one BM who is not doing the shower or bachelorette offered to help me with those if I want her to.

It's your wedding, so if you want to do it yourself, then do it. If those people didn't offer to help, then they probably don't want to, or are too busy. You're probably better off doing it yourself, especially if you're working with a short timeline.

bethmerchant

I think I know how you feel. I keep telling FI the list of things that need to get done and he tells me to just take in one day at a time instead of helping. I told him WAY back that he needed to take care of the transportation for us. It's still not done. He has no idea where his birth certificate is. I've explained to him we only have a couple days in the next month where we are both free to go get our marriage license in the 50 mins they are open after I leave my job and I can't plan a day to go until I know we have all our paperwork together. I just want him to call his parents & grandparents and go get it. It crunch time and I'm feeling the pressure for sure.

andreamarie77

I'm not sure why you're looking for all this help... it's your wedding, you shouldn't be relying on others to do it all for you.

I have done everything myself, except for stuffing the invitations. I had my mom and 2 of my BM's come over and help me, but just because I thought we could all use a girl's night. FI was gone, so I got some wine and some food and we all sat around and talked for a few hours while we got the invitations done. I have asked them for absolutely nothing else except to be there at the wedding to have fun.