Depressed?

ralbro

Lately I've been feeling really run down and overwhelmed with work, parental responsibilties, wedding planning, and now just life in general. FI had a GM tell him last night that the address we sent the wedding invite to was wrong and could we please resend it and address it to his GF. I totally just snapped and told FI to do it himself because I hate everything right now. FI just stared at me and then took care of it. Everything makes me want to cry and I am just tired of fighting to put a smile on my face. I just started a new job at work in September and I thought I would love it, but I don't. My boss is mean to me and I feel like I'm always being told what I did wrong. I'm just so over every little thing in my life feeling like a battle. 

I emailed an employee assistance counselor who has come into our office to do workshops before, and I'm hoping she gets back to me to set up an appointment. I'm so ready to start feeling better but I don't know where to start. It takes me hours some nights to fall asleep and then I can't drag myself out of bed in the morning. I can't afford to lose my job, and I live in constant fear that my boss is going to realize that I'm not always doing my part. 

Sorry for long depressing vent. I'm just so over it and don't know what I need to do to to get over myself. T&P are much appreciated.

rachel801231

You did one of the best things you can do for yourself and that's to make an appointment to talk to someone.  Maybe you can talk to your FI as and let him know how you have been feeling and maybe he can help alleviate some of the stress you have been feeling.  You have a lot going on and a lot of new things which is common to bring on stress.  Try to take a deep breath and relax.  Do something for YOU as well.  Tell FI you're going to take an hour for yourself and do something just for you.  Read a book, take a long bath, go for a walk, etc.  Just hang in there, things will get better!

jml1981

I think you're doing the right thing by talking to a couselor about it. Sometimes it just helps to get someone elses perspective; especially a professional. You might also want to sit down with your FI and tell him how your feeling so you don't push him away. He's there to help you and to be there for you so he should know what's going on. Maybe he can also help take some of the burden off. Hope this helps. Good luck to you!

elidellio

You definitely did the right thing reaching out for help! Rachel gave you some great advice, too. With all the wedding planning, work, etc. I've been finding it really difficult to just take some time for me but when I do it's so worthwhile. Just talk to your FI and keep asking for help when you need it. Lots of T&P comnig your way. I hope you can move past this soon.

Mslandry0203

I am so sorry that your feeling this way. I am also glad that you spoke with somone. I also think that you need a timeout. I too was feeling very overwhelmed for the past couple weeks and I took a couple days off. I know it may not seem like much but when the kids are at school or daycare, your FI is at work and its just you on your own time it does wonders. Also my budget is very tight these days so I looked on Groupon and got a great deal on a massage, mani and pedi. I think I spent like $60.00 for all three.. It did wonders for me. I hope this helps... I will be sending happy thoughts your way.

rebeccaa12

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_depressed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:6ba5e3e4-44a7-407b-8239-ccaf284b93f1Post:2455250f-270c-42ae-9c4f-49e2a589e871">Re: Depressed?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think you're doing the right thing by talking to a couselor about it. Sometimes it just helps to get someone elses perspective; especially a professional. You might also want to sit down with your FI and tell him how your feeling so you don't push him away. He's there to help you and to be there for you so he should know what's going on. Maybe he can also help take some of the burden off. Hope this helps. Good luck to you!
Posted by jml1981[/QUOTE]

She took the words right out of my mouth. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and just know that communicating with FI is totally key. There was a period of time about 2 years ago I felt similarly agitated easily. It really did take a change in perspective (and a small vacation!). I'll send you T&P! :)

adrienne0925

I feel your pain! I am been quite edgy myself and your work problem sounds very similar to mine.  I have been taking it day by day in hopes that it will calm down once the wedding is over.  We are in the home stretch!  I would def take the other girls advice and talk to FI about things, take some time for yourself and see what the EA counselor has to say.   Cheer up and T&P coming your way!

bethmerchant

I'm feeling some of the same things. It's a lot juggling a fulltime job, being a mom, and planning a wedding. I had a sit down with my FI yesterday afternoon and my mom last night about things that I need them to help me with. It does feel better after you take some time to talk to someone and take some time for yourself. I took 30 min last night and made a list of everything that needs to be done in the next 2 months. Now I feel like I have a better grasp on what's left. Chin up! It will be worth it (that's what I keep telling myself!)

bdgrl73

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_depressed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:6ba5e3e4-44a7-407b-8239-ccaf284b93f1Post:c284252b-4a52-4e33-8fc6-9fc040250a4c">Re: Depressed?</a>:
[QUOTE]You did one of the best things you can do for yourself and that's to make an appointment to talk to someone.  Maybe you can talk to your FI as and let him know how you have been feeling and maybe he can help alleviate some of the stress you have been feeling.  You have a lot going on and a lot of new things which is common to bring on stress.  Try to take a deep breath and relax.  Do something for YOU as well.  Tell FI you're going to take an hour for yourself and do something just for you.  Read a book, take a long bath, go for a walk, etc.  Just hang in there, things will get better!
Posted by rachel801231[/QUOTE]

This exactly!! T & P being sent your way...I know the stress of working full time, being a mom and plannning a wedding...but the above and all the other pp's gave you outstanding advice...we're all sending out good vibes :)

jbrook12

I think asking for help is the best thing you could have done. I am so glad you took that step. Just make sure you keep your FI in the loop as to how you feel about what all is going on. And maybe you need to have an afternoon for just you, go get a mani/pedi and wash away some of your stress for a few hours. It may not sound like much but it could help. Just stick with getting help though because that really is the key that could help you!