Could I vent for a second please?

JMot7

FI and I(but especially FI) are quite peeved at his step-brother right about now.

Yesterday I went to check the mail and FI and I got a card from his step brother in another state. I thought it was a congrats card for the wedding since he and his FI couldn't come. Little was I expecting it was an invitation to the step brother's wedding March 18th. Our wedding is March 17th. He and the entire family have known about our wedding for 2 years and our date has never changed! The cherry on this sundae is that their rehearsal/ rehearsal dinner is the exact same and day as ours. WTF?!
FI is really upset since this sort of causes a conflict for his dad("Do I go to the celebrations for my blood son or the adopted son I've raised?") For me I just cannot believe the gall of these two! We have had our date set in stone for 2 years and they have only known each other 9 months! How could FI's step-mom(Who loves the both of us tremendously and has been soo excited for our wedding)not step in and suggest having their wedding the weekend before or after?! I've really just been so flabbergasted by this whole turn of events all weekend!

Thank you for the rant. Oy vey!!!

cmac3504

I wanted to vote for many of them in your survey!  First of all, wow.... that's absolutely crazy.  Have you guys talked to your step mom or dad about it? Any chance it's sort of a quick wedding that his parents didn't even know about?

Another thought... Do you have a lot of OOT guests? Maybe they figured they'd take advantage of all the friends and family in town? 

9 months of being together before a wedding is quick!! Any chance she's preggo??

Don't let it get you down!! Your wedding will be so much more thought out and amazing

Siglers0412

WOW! How far apart are the weddings? That's insane. I'd definitely be annoyed, ESPECIALLY since they said they can't go to yours and theirs is the next day??!! UGH!

elidellio

That is crazy. I voted just to move past it and focus on your own stuff, though. They've already sent out invites, there really isn't anything you can do.

To me, the priorities seem clear. If someone is meant to be at your wedding and their rehearsal on the same night, they should be at your wedding. 

Honestly, it just makes them look like jerks and will probably result in a poor turn out for the rehearsal if you have a lot of the same people in the wedding. 

Hope it works out!!

rachel801231

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[QUOTE]That is crazy. I voted just to move past it and focus on your own stuff, though. They've already sent out invites, there really isn't anything you can do. To me, the priorities seem clear. If someone is meant to be at your wedding and their rehearsal on the same night, they should be at your wedding.  <strong>Honestly, it just makes them look like jerks and will probably result in a poor turn out for the rehearsal if you have a lot of the same people in the wedding</strong>.  Hope it works out!!
Posted by elidellio[/QUOTE]
I think this too.  That's a crazy situation.  I was also thinking she was pregnant as well. This is just odd all around.

Carykay

Girl im so sorry. That really sucks. I cant believe they would do that. Thats just rude of them.

rebeccaa12

Let me start off by saying that tHat is TOTALLY BOGUS. I don't care much for my step sister so if she pulled that stunt I'd lose my shiit.

However, seeing how your situation is very differnent from mine, I'd still probably not go to their wedding. I know it sounds harsh, but I would definitely reserve the day after to reflect on my own wedding and get my own stuff together. Selfish as it seems, you have been planning this for two years. I'd send a gift for sure, but don't think I'd be able to comprehend that even if she WAS preggo, she could have held off or pushed up a week. The day after is a little rash on their part, regardless of how long they've been togethr. JMO, though

brittandjp

Wow! That is SO rude. I can't believe anyone would have the decency to do such a thing. I voted for the first option because I definitely think something should be said. Perhaps there's a good reason behind it? However, you technically can't do anything in regards to them changing the date, especially since they've already sent the invites. I'm definitely not the type to "let it go" though so I'd say something. Then, once I got it off my chest, I'd just try to relax and enjoy my own day, in which case I'd vote for the second option.

JMot7

Oh, ladies! You all are so fabulous! I'm just glad that you all can validate me and make me feel like I'm not the crazy one here!
FI hasn't been able to talk to his dad yet(his dad works a night shift) but we have made up our minds that we wont be going to their wedding.