March 2012 Weddings

Gifts from people not invited to wedding

This is a sort-of vent... Not that I'm mad, but feel really bad and needed to "talk" with people who understand!

I had a shower in my small hometown this weekend, where our wedding also is.  It was lovely and I was humbled by how generous and thoughtful my hometown is.

There were several gifts there from people not invited to the wedding- I guess they had just heard I was getting marriend and having a shower this weekend, and they sent gifts.  Some of them were people I would have never thought to invite.  But there were gifts from a few people that I would have invited, but the guest list just got too full.  So I felt bad enough when I couldn't invite them, and this just made me feel worse!

And on top of all that, there's going to be plenty of room in the ceremony and reception, so it turns out we could have easily accomodated those people :(

Anyone else going through something like this?

Re: Gifts from people not invited to wedding

  • I was thrown a wedding shower from people at work and I invited maybe 2 people from here. It was a sweet surprise, but I don't feel bad about not inviting everyone. I'm sure most of the understand. Plus you didn't ask for gifts or invite them to your shower so you should not feel bad.

    I would just send thank you cards to those people for thinking of you and move on. I would not to mention anything about them not being invited to the wedding in the card either...
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    [QUOTE]I was thrown a wedding shower from people at work and I invited maybe 2 people from here. It was a sweet surprise, but I don't feel bad about not inviting everyone. I'm sure most of the understand. Plus you didn't ask for gifts or invite them to your shower so you should not feel bad. I would just send thank you cards to those people for thinking of you and move on. I would not to mention anything about them not being invited to the wedding in the card either...
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    She said it best.  You shouldn't feel bad for not inviting them and they didn't have to send a gift.  I would as pp suggested, just send a nice thank you card and enjoy your big day!
  • You didn't invite them to the wedding or the shower, so it was their choice to send a gift to you. Most people know that wedding lists are usually not all inclusive because it's so expensive. So I'm sure they were just doing something nice by sending you a gift. Especially if you're in a small town and the whole world knows when your shower and wedding are.

    I would just write them each a nice thank you note and leave it at that.
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