Q for Life after Marriage?

arrestclementine

So after we get married/back from our honeymoon, I am getting my BC taken out.  We are not going to actively try to prevent pregnancy but I'm not planning on charting/doing the whole FF thing right away... we are just going to see if it can happen naturally in the next half a year or so...

Is anyone else doing this?  Or are most of you going to start charting, or waiting to have babies?

tiffk10

I was charting and Fi thought that was too much pressure so I've stopped. We are going to see what happens between now and June. If still nothing by June (we will have been trying for about 6 cycles) then we will look into charting and stuff again.

rachel801231

We are going to start trying in late summer.  For right now we will just see if it happens.  If not we will stop while I finish my program in school and then start trying again when I get closer to finishing.

4n6chick

I think I'll stay on BC about a month more and then start trying.  We're not going to do cycles, etc at first either.  Just see how it goes, although I can't really do that for too long since I am older.

JCWhitey

I run out of pills in August, I believe.  When that happens, I'm done.  I just hate being on BC.

I won't chart, most likely, but I know my cycles really well and know exactly when I ovulate without having to chart.  I'll just have to start paying more attention to the signals.

No babies for us until DH is in his last semester at school.  And the way things are going I REALLY want to move away from the situation we're living in right now which means possibly having to make up an extra semester.  Ugh.

jbrook12

We are the odd couple out on this one. At my next yearly appointment I am going to check into an IUD. We for sure don't want kids right now and not sure that we ever will. We are going take another look at it all around our 5 year anniversary. We enjoy being aunt and uncle for now.

[Deleted User]

I'll stay on my pill through the end of October when we finish our last competitive event for the year, then we'll see what happens. I've had issues in the past and I don't think I've ever had a normal cycle, but my doctor has said I should still be able to get pregnant, I just might need a little help.

Aks3131

I'm staying on BC for a few more years. We dont want to have kids for about another 6 or 7 years. I know some people have looked at us like we're crazy for not wanting kids right away but we want to travel and enjoy married life just the two of us before we have any kids.

ralbro

I'm glad I'm not the only one not TTC right after the wedding! I have a 7 y/o daughter and FH just started a new job at the end of last year. Our plan for at least 2012 and 2013 is to pay down debt so we can start looking at houses at the end of next year. We both WANT one more, but I'm only 28, so I'm not in any hurry!

And I remember what it was like to have a baby, so that helps. My brother just had a baby girl and my sister is having another girl in May so I'm going to just enjoy being an aunt!

femmepink

My FI got injured about 3 weeks ago and now he can barely walk. He will not recover on his own and will need surgery in October.

So this has made him feel more domesticated and like he wants children ASAP.

I am already off BC and have been charting since September so I know when I ovulate. That way, we do decide to take the plunge into parenthood we'll have a good chance of timing it right, and I'm sure I ovulate.

I think we're going to realistically start trying after the summer.

femmepink

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[QUOTE]So after we get married/back from our honeymoon, I am getting my BC taken out.  We are not going to actively try to prevent pregnancy but I'm not planning on charting/doing the whole FF thing right away... <strong>we are just going to see if it can happen naturally</strong> in the next half a year or so... Is anyone else doing this?  Or are most of you going to start charting, or waiting to have babies?
Posted by amber0389[/QUOTE]

Charting is not unnatural. It is very natural to know whether or not your body is ovulating by monitoring your natural basal body temperature.

femmepink

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[QUOTE]I run out of pills in August, I believe.  When that happens, I'm done.  I just hate being on BC. I won't chart, most likely,<strong> but I know my cycles really well and know exactly when I ovulate without having to chart.</strong>  I'll just have to start paying more attention to the signals. No babies for us until DH is in his last semester at school.  And the way things are going I REALLY want to move away from the situation we're living in right now which means possibly having to make up an extra semester.  Ugh.
Posted by JCWhitey[/QUOTE]

It's impossible to know when you ovulate without <strong>charting</strong> or an <strong>ultrasound</strong>. You might think you know because your cycle is a perfect 28 days, but if you lurk on the "trying to get pregnant" board on TB, you will see that some ladies have perfect cycles and NEVER ovulate, therefore, they can never get pregnant.

I wanted to know whether or not I ovulated FOR SURE <strong>before</strong> I started trying.

I highly recommend charting if you really want to be sure that you won't have a problem!

Good luck.

cu97tiger

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[QUOTE]I'm staying on BC for a few more years. We dont want to have kids for about another 6 or 7 years. I know some people have looked at us like we're crazy for not wanting kids right away but we want to travel and enjoy married life just the two of us before we have any kids.
Posted by Aks3131[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think it's crazy at all to wait awhile. If I weren't 36, I'd be happy to just enjoy being married for awhile. Unfortunately, time isn't on our side. We're postponing our honeymoon until late June/early July, so I'll go off my BC at the beginning of June.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't plan on charting for awhile. I want FI (then DH) and I to be stress free and not worried about 'doing it' on certain days of the week. </div><div>
</div><div>I respectfully disagree though, femmepink. While there's nothing wrong with charting, it is not 'letting things happen naturally' if you know when you ovulate and plan intercourse around those days.</div>

arrestclementine

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Q for Life after Marriage? : I don't think it's crazy at all to wait awhile. If I weren't 36, I'd be happy to just enjoy being married for awhile. Unfortunately, time isn't on our side. We're postponing our honeymoon until late June/early July, so I'll go off my BC at the beginning of June. <strong>I don't plan on charting for awhile. I want FI (then DH) and I to be stress free and not worried about 'doing it' on certain days of the week.  I respectfully disagree though, femmepink. While there's nothing wrong with charting, it is not 'letting things happen naturally' if you know when you ovulate and plan intercourse around those days.</strong>
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

I've been lurking on TB... And starting to feel like a crazy person.  I mean I really didn't think EVERYONE charts - i know not everyone does but it sure does feel like it....Just felt like i was the only one that was just going to let nature kind of take it's course.

femmepink

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Q for Life after Marriage? : I don't think it's crazy at all to wait awhile. If I weren't 36, I'd be happy to just enjoy being married for awhile. Unfortunately, time isn't on our side. We're postponing our honeymoon until late June/early July, so I'll go off my BC at the beginning of June. I don't plan on charting for awhile. I want FI (then DH) and I to be stress free and not worried about 'doing it' on certain days of the week.  I respectfully disagree though, femmepink. While there's nothing wrong with charting, <strong>it is not 'letting things happen naturally' if you know when you ovulate and plan intercourse around those days.
</strong>Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

I understand what you're saying. But I don't think there's anything unnatural about knowing your body temperature and having sex accordingly. Things are still happening naturally, just planned. I guess the word "natural" just means something different to everyone.