What would you do?

JMot7

So I have 2 MOH. One has been a complete angel, the other....well...lets just say this wedding hasn't exactly been one of her priorities.
My wedding timeline goes like rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, girls all go to my parent's house to stay the night before the wedding, then day of the wedding we all get up have breakfast, get ready, then everyone heads over to the venue together.
My problem MOH has to work the night of the rehearsal and cant go to any of those events or stay the night. Thats okay. The next day she plans to come over to my parent's house to get ready, with her roommate(invited to the wedding...not invited to get ready with us). My parent's dont live in a huge house and there will already be a few people getting ready there so it will be crowded. Having the roommate come too is not my ideal wedding day senario.
What I'm asking is if you were in my position, and didn't want the MOH to bring her roommate into this intimate moment in your wedding, how would you go about asking MOH not to bring her friend? Without sounding like a bridezilla!

arrestclementine

I think it would be different if her friend wasn't invited to the wedding.  IMHO I don't think there is a way you can say this without sounding like a bridezilla....

cmac3504

I can honestly say that I understand where you're coming from.  Being "the bride", you're not really supposed to be seen by most guests until you walk down the aisle.  I'm assuming this is why you call the time "intimate" because only your closest family members and bridesmaids should see you!!

Anyway, is there somewhere that you can think of to have her hang out while you all get ready?  Or someone else she can hang out with?  If you are as close as you should be with your bridesmaids, I would think they would understand your wishes for your wedding day and would not consider you a "bridezilla" just for this request.. especially if you've been very reasonable thus far.

cu97tiger

I think you have every right to tell your MOH that you'd like it to just be a certain set of people getting ready with you. It doesn't make you a bridezilla... Just let her know that you are excited she can make it to that portion of the day but that you'd really it rather just be her, your other MOH, parents, etc, and that you'll see her roommate at the wedding.

rachel801231

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[QUOTE]I think you have every right to tell your MOH that you'd like it to just be a certain set of people getting ready with you. It doesn't make you a bridezilla... Just let her know that you are excited she can make it to that portion of the day but that you'd really it rather just be her, your other MOH, parents, etc, and that you'll see her roommate at the wedding.
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

This exactly.  I think it is totally rude of her to even what to bring her other friend over while you guys get ready.

JMot7

Thank you, Rachel! I thought so too.
Thank you for the advice, ladies. I'm just gonna tell her srtaight that I'd rather she let her friend drive herself to the wedding and just have it be the bridal party while we get ready. If they were carpooling like an hour away from home to get to my wedding I'd understand but my venue is literally a 20 minute drive from thier house. Ha!
Thank you again!