Thoughts...

w+c3

Ok so I'm kind of a sentimental person. FI is not. He hates the pressure of trying to turn his feelings into words. So therefore we are forgoing writing our own vows. And when I told him we could just exchange letters on the day of the wedding instead of gifts he got all squirmy agian...

So anyways I sort of have the idea of writing a little speech or toast for a lack of better words to say at the rehersal dinner.  It would be very similiar to what I would have said in vows. Do you think its weird for me to say it there? or inappropriate? I'm just looking for opinions

tiffk10

I think it is perfectly appropriate to do at the rehearsal dinner. However, I think you also have to take your Fi into consideration. My Fi is much more eloquent with words than I am. If he made a sweet toast for me and I didn't have time to prepare something ahead of time to say back I would be a little embarrassed. I'm just not good with words in that way on the spot and I would feel pressured to also say something.

If your Fi wouldn't feel pressured to also say something then go for it!

scooterpie7

I think that would be lovely. I am actually giving a speech at the wedding reception itself (not really one for sitting quietly while the men in my life all get to speak!) but if you prefer the rehearsal I think it would be perfectly appropriate. 

scooterpie7

BUT also I agree with Tiff that you should probably give your FI a heads-up!

brittandjp

I totally don't think it's weird. If you really want to share those special words with him, but he's too nervous to do them of his own, then I definitely think it's an appropriate time. He may feel obligated to respond, but I'm sure it would be an on the fly, quick, sweet gesture or comment to show his appreciation and love for you. If you wrote him this deep, heart felt card and he didn't have one in return, he might feel guilty.

I think it's really sweet Whit and if we weren't writing our own vows, I'd probably want to do something like this. We've also talked about doing letters and little gifts though too. Ughh, I don't know. ONE more thing for me to think more about. lol

rachel801231

I think it would be perfectly fine.  FI and I aren't writing vows but I do want to  maybe write a short letter for each of us to read before the wedding.  I love what people are doing with these letters/vows.  They are writing them on a photo mat and framing their wedding photos with them.  That way if you did want to do something like this, you could!  I also agree with pp, you may want to let him know in advance.

elidellio

I think it's a really sweet idea, Whit. I say go for it!

w+c3

Thanks ladies! I think my mind is settled! I just didn't want to be a weirdo lol