Weight for your wedding

femmepink

Are you at the weight you hoped to be at your wedding?

We are still (well March 31 brides) 2 months and some change out, but I am nowhere near what I wanted to be.

I'd need to lose 20lbs to be where I hoped to be for my wedding. It's so depressing, I could cry. I really feel like I failed myself. I just like food too much.

Where does everyone else stand?

4n6chick

No, I'm way over what I wanted to be - not just for the wedding, but myself period.

(I'm going to have a little pity party for myself right now, fair warning)

I lost over 100 pounds about 10 years ago on Weight Watchers and kept about 80-90% of it off until 2009 when my dad's cancer came back.  I dealt with it by eating.  If I wanted fried foods, screw it, I ate it.  I also hurt my hip around that time and stopped really going to the gym, at least not nearly as much.  My dad died in Dec. 2010 and while I'm not eating to deal with it as much, I have completely gotten away from all the healthy eating habits I had.

So now I'm getting married in 2 months and I weigh about what I did before I started Weight watchers.  I know FI doesn't care (he met me after the diagnosis, when I had put a lot of the weight back on) but I look at myself in the mirror and I hate it.  But I also haven't done anything about it.  I keep telling myself I'll go back 'tomorrow' but so far tomorrow hasn't come.  On Tuesday I go for my first fitting and I'm so terrified that I've gained even more weight since I bought it in May.  I remember looking at myself in a mirror and thinking "ok, for the most part I look ok, but I want to get rid of this double chin before the wedding" and now my double chin is larger instead.

*sigh*

femmepink

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[QUOTE]No, I'm way over what I wanted to be - not just for the wedding, but myself period. (I'm going to have a little pity party for myself right now, fair warning) I lost over 100 pounds about 10 years ago on Weight Watchers and kept about 80-90% of it off until 2009 when my dad's cancer came back.  I dealt with it by eating.  If I wanted fried foods, screw it, I ate it.  I also hurt my hip around that time and stopped really going to the gym, at least not nearly as much.  My dad died in Dec. 2010 and while I'm not eating to deal with it as much, I have completely gotten away from all the healthy eating habits I had. So now I'm getting married in 2 months and I weigh about what I did before I started Weight watchers.  I know FI doesn't care (he met me after the diagnosis, when I had put a lot of the weight back on) but I look at myself in the mirror and I hate it.  But I also haven't done anything about it.  I keep telling myself I'll go back 'tomorrow' but so far tomorrow hasn't come.  On Tuesday I go for my first fitting and I'm so terrified that I've gained even more weight since I bought it in March.  I remember looking at myself in a mirror and thinking "ok, for the most part I look ok, but I want to get rid of this double chin before the wedding" and now my double chin is larger instead. *sigh*
Posted by 4n6chick[/QUOTE]

I totally understand. I feel like the toughest part about not being the weight I want is that I was totally okay with letting myself down. It's something I REALLY wanted (to be skinny on my wedding day) and I didn't even try to attain it. :(

I also feel like if my wedding wasn't motivation enough, nothing ever will be.

tiffk10

I'm not where I want to be... I would love it if I could lose 25lbs before the wedding. At that point I'd only have another 50 or so left until I'd be at my goal weight. It sucks that this will most likely not be the case. But I'm going to work my tail off to get as close as I can.

w+c3

So I'm closer to my goal weight than most of you ladies and my complaints might seem trivial to you, but everyone has their own goal weight. I am a "healthy" weight, but I still wish I was just a tad bit smaller. I think that truly most of my issues revolve around toning and not actual weight. I did manage during the initial stress of the wedding to lose abot 7 lbs of weight that I hadn't been able to kick for years. At that point I was fairly satisfied. My tummy was flatter, my love handles shrunk some. I felt totally comfortable in my body.  And when I am only 5'3" that is a visible difference to my body and its shape. Well I already put some of it back on and I can tell. Its a little sad because I wanted to be a little more confident in the bathing suit on the honeymoon.

I'm just a) not motivated to work out. I hate working out. b) I love food.  and c) my time is fairly limited and I can't see wasting it on sweating.

JCWhitey

OK, I need to put a slight disclaimer here... I am naturally thin.  My Dad is 6'3" and 165 pounds soaking wet and that's mostly genetics (and partially his veganness).  I take after him in being tall and thin and have my whole life.  I can keep my weight pretty much by being normal active.

But in 2009 I was in an accident that left me on the couch for over a year.  They did surgery and it took another 6 months to recover from that.  During that time I jumped from 118 pounds to 136.  Quite dramatic if you've never been past 125!  But this last summer I was able to go back to camp where I lost 4 pounds in 4 weeks and since then I've been going to the gym with the hopes of getting back down to my old high of 125.  But more than lose weight I want to be healthy and in shape!

I really have no desire to be back at 118.  I was waaaay too skinny back then.  So I'm trying to get fit.  I like the look of a little muscle in my stomache and a little in my arms and legs.  Nothing too crazy!  But to counter that I've been eating about 2500 calories a day (mostly protein) so all my work goes from fat to muscle and not fat to nothingness again.

I'm at 127.5 as of yesterday.  So I have 2.5 pounds to go in 33 days and I think I'll get there.

adrienne0925

I am right there with you! I feel depressed even thinking about it....I need to lose 20lbs and have been dieting since after Xmas...lost 3 so far but its soooo hard!! I go to the gym 4x a week, take classes at the gym and work with a trainer 1x a week at the gym.  I am hoping the next 2 months that I get to at least 15 lbs!  My goal is to not have to wear my Spanx the day of the wedding! Those things are so damn uncomfortable...

stahlkc

To the PP who said "If I can't lose weight for my wedding day, then I never will," I actually said that exact same thing last night to friends. I gained 40lbs over the last 4 years, largely due to the stress and erratic schedule of graduate school. I am at my highest weight ever in my life (180lbs) and yet I have zero motivation to actually start working out.  Like w+c3, I hate working out. I'll do it if my friends are, but I never go to the gym by myself. Although I am not happy with the weight I am now and would like to be back to the 140lbs I was before graduate school, I don't actually hate my body as it is. I am sure that contributes to the low motivation. What makes it really bad though is my mom. She hates how much weight I've put on and comments about it every time I see her. She's always pushing "healthy" recipes on me and quoting Dr. Oz left and right. To make it even worse, she's the one making my wedding dress. She's doing a fantasitic job (it looks gorgeous!), but I'm terrified to see her this coming weekend because it's my first fitting. I know she is going to comment on my weight and how I haven't lost anything. Hopefully the dress will just look so beautiful that she will be distracted ;-)

lisa&sean

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[QUOTE]So <strong>I'm closer to my goal weight than most of you ladies and my complaints might seem trivial to you, but everyone has their own goal weight. I am a "healthy" weight, but I still wish I was just a tad bit smaller. I think that truly most of my issues revolve around toning and not actual weight.</strong> I did manage during the initial stress of the wedding to lose abot 7 lbs of weight that I hadn't been able to kick for years. At that point I was fairly satisfied. My tummy was flatter, my love handles shrunk some. I felt totally comfortable in my body.  And when I am only 5'3" that is a visible difference to my body and its shape. Well I already put some of it back on and I can tell. Its a little sad because I wanted to be a little more confident in the bathing suit on the honeymoon. <strong>I'm just a) not motivated to work out. I hate working out. b) I love food.  and c) my time is fairly limited and I can't see wasting it on sweating.</strong>
Posted by w+c3[/QUOTE]

I am with you Whit!!!

I wish I could get down to 125 for the wedding but I am trying to be realistic...I have NEVER been that weight as an adult (not even in high school) and I am currently working out 4 times a week and eating healthy about 5 days a week (I tend to splurge on the weekends cause FI always wants to go out). And I feel like I can't do anymore than that. I am maintaining at about 130-132 doing that and I am just going to be happy. My dress fits good and I don't have to get in a bikini after the wedding (yay for ski honeymoon!)  Sure my thighs and pooch are a little bigger than I wish they were, but at some point you just have to find your happy weight! Sure I could work out 6 times a week and eat healthy 7 days a week to get there, but I feel like I would be miserable...I love food tooo much and hate working out!

cu97tiger

When we got engaged, I was totally going to use that as motivation to lose 10 lbs (I'm 5'5" and 132). But through Insanity, I've really put my focus on toning up, so while i haven't lost any weight, my body has definitely seen some change, with more arm and ab muscles that I've had before... I'll be perfectly happy if I just maintain this routine until the wedding (and through the next bathing suit season!).

JandAVegas2012

I have had a weight issue all my life and FI met me back when I was 130, when we got engaged, 10 years later, I was at 254.  that is basically crazy I know but I never felt like a fat person (I'm 5 feet) until I take a picture, or have to buy clothes.  Than ofcourse I had the wedding dress drama, and I said no - tomorrow I start eating healthier and losing that weight - this was in Sept, and today I am 205 lb.  I still need to take off alot of weight before I'm at my happy weight.  But I know that now when I wear my dress I know it will look totally different than when I bought it because of my hard work.  So instead of having a pity party for myself it just offers me more motivation to continue even after the wedding, hey nobody said I couldn't do a trash the dress photo session on my 1 year anniversary ... 

brittandjp

Ugghh I totally understand. I wanted to lose maybe 15 pounds or so and tone a little. I'm 5'9 and I have no idea how much I weigh.

Ever since being engaged I've had the same battle, I'm motivated for a few weeks and then I lose it. I was SUPER motivated before the boudoir shoot, I worked out at least 5 days a week and ate really, really. well. However, since it's been over and my dress still fits, I find myself using that as an excuse to not work out or focus on eating healthy. I don't necessarily eat badly, but I love dessert. I love snacking, it's a horrible habit. The last couple weeks I've worked out like twice a week, which is better than nothing, but still not enough. I don't ever weigh myself so I don't know how much I lost or how much I've gained back, but I can tell with the way my clothes fit. I always tell myself, I'll start fresh on Monday. The last couple of weeks it hasn't totally worked out for me.

So, again. I'll try to start fresh tomorrow.

bethmerchant

I can so relate to this!. In Nov. I was the biggest I have ever been except for when I was pregnant. My mom told me for the first time in my 35 years that I had to loose weight for my wedding dress to fit (she's doing the alterations).  I was so depressed. I had gained 30lbs since March & had not eaten that badly. (FI didn't even notice...I love him so much!) I knew something had to be medically wrong. Sure enough, went to the dr. over Christmas & my thyroid is whacko again. Dr changed my med & put me on a weight loss aid that I will not take after the wedding. I also found out 2 weeks ago I'm hypogylcemic. So on top of wedding stress I've had to stop and figure out how/what to eat 6 times a day without sugar, caffine or most carbs (no simple carbs because of the hypoglycemia & no whole grains, seeds, nuts or skins becuase of another condition). I am down 10 lbs since Dec 1, but I've got a ways to go. I just want to be healthy and not on medicine so I can get pregnant again this summer!

elidellio

I'm with a few of the other girls, I'm at a fairly comfortable weight but I really want to tone up some more. I was working out a lot in the fall but then life got so busy I've slacked off and I can really see the weight coming back on. I'm aiming to work out at least 2 or 3 days a week until the wedding since I feel like that's a managable goal even with a busy schedule. 

rachel801231

Femm....I am totally with you on this one.  I had eight months to kick it into gear and I've lost ten pounds and gained half of it back over Christmas!  It's something I wanted but I guess not enough because I'd be doing so much better.  But I can't live in the past so I am going to kick it up a notch and really focus on losing at least 20 lbs by my march 31st wedding.  I'ts totally doable if I lose 2 lbs a week for the next 11 weeks. 

cmac3504

I played bball in college and thought that since I was in the best shape of my life I'd never get below 130 (5'7" @ 135 in college) but shortly after becoming engaged I lost 5-8 lbs and went from size 6/8 to 4... not sure if it was the stress, a few minor eating habit changes, or BC change -- haha -- but now I'm just hoping to maintain it and tone up before the wedding.  I too have lost a lot of motivation... mostly because I keep telling myself that finishing wedding details is most important, THEN I'll go to the gym.  Once February hits, I need to stop using that as an excuse and start dropping some of the details.  I've already dropped creating a menu for each table setting.

There's still time ladies!! 

ashbosity

With you all. I bought a dress that I loved that was too small. I begrudgingly bought another one a few months (a super bargain dress because I already spent on the first). I finally gave up a few weeks ago and put the first dress up on the classifieds because I know it won't fit me and I could really use the extra money right now.