very upset!

a+b=u&me

Today, I went with my girls (only 2) to DB to try on their dresses. My MOH was so excited with everything. She must've tried on a dozen dresses! My other BM though, REFUSED to try on anything. My color is clover. She says she hates clover. Um.... you are not the bride!!!! It is not up to you! She tells me she found a green dress on a website. I say it needs to be the EXACT shade of clover! WTF! How hard could this be???? She left with nothing. My wedding is in 6 more Fridays. I just don't get it. I couldn't say anything, and bit my tongue because I didn't want to come off as a bridezilla. I didn't want to start a fight in front of a whole store. I just can't believe it. NOT one dress she liked!

firechick83

WOW...I would never (as a BM) refuse to buy the dress the bride wanted unless is was ridiculously expensive.  It sounds like you picked the color & were letting them pick the dresses?  Is there something else going on maybe (finacially/body image issues)?  I'm sorry you have this stress added in!! 

a+b=u&me

All I required was it needed to be the same color (clover) and it needed to be long. Any style they can chose. There's only 2, so I figured its fine. I personally have a strange shaped body. I have large hips, and small boobs.... she's the opposite. She has large boobs. My MOH has huge boobs... and she didn't have a problem finding a dress! THEN to top it off, while my MOH was in the dress she loved, and planned on buying, my BM tells my MOH, "I really don't think that dress looks good on you!" Thank god my MOH says, "Thats fine, its not what you think, because I LOVE it and I am buying it!" I mean, get off your high horse!!!

Sorry, I just had such a frustrating experience. When FI comes home, he will be hearing about it too!

w+c3

This late in the game I would have just made an executive decision. There is no way I would have let her walk out of that store without a dress. Maybe if it was Octocber of last year but not january. no way. That girl would have got measured and I would have said its too late in the game and either you choose a dress or I pick one or this whole bridesmaid thing isn't going to work out. That is just crazy.

brittandjp

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[QUOTE]This late in the game I would have just made an executive decision. There is no way I would have let her walk out of that store without a dress. Maybe if it was Octocber of last year but not january. no way. That girl would have got measured and I would have said its too late in the game and either you choose a dress or I pick one or this whole bridesmaid thing isn't going to work out. That is just crazy.
Posted by w+c3[/QUOTE]

I totally agree with this. It's really, really late to buy a dress IMO. She very well could end up needing to buy something off the rack or spend a bunch of extra money getting it rushed. Even then it's pretty risky. I'd definitely go a little (in the nicest way possible) bridezilla on her. She needs a dress asap.

firechick83

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[QUOTE]I'd definitely go a little (in the nicest way possible) bridezilla on her. She needs a dress asap.
Posted by brittandjp[/QUOTE]

This!  Esp since you're letting them pick (I did the same thing).  There is no excuse for her to not have ordered her dress.

rachel801231

Oh wow...I would be so upset.  That's just hurtful being that way.  My girls are getting their dresses from DB and one ordered hers yesterday.  They told her it could be as late as March 15 (but no later) to get her dress in. I'm getting married on the 31st.  Maybe you could ask her in private what's going on and if she even wants to be a bridesmaid.  It sounds like she was being difficult just because she could.  Hope it all works out!

amberr110

Are these outbursts/tantrums normal behavior for her?

a+b=u&me

She is usually more cooperative... I don't think she wants to be a bridesmaid. I am going to have to call her tomorrow, and tell her that I can't have her get another dress from somewhere else, and that she can't be uncooperative.  It has to be from DB so that the color is the exact match! I was so upset, I couldn't even speak! I felt like if I said anything at the time, I would have just busted into tears! I am going to ask her tomorrow too if she truly wants to be a bridesmaid. I feel like calling her and just telling her that she's out!