Happy & Sad at the same time

Rachmarie23

So I just got off of the phone with my mom, who told me that my aunt and uncle from TX will not be able to come to our wedding due to my cousin's wife being pregnant, and they promised that they would be there for the birth. I totally understand, but at the same time I am so sad.  

First of all, this is how I find out that they are pregnant (my mom forgot to tell me earlier), and secondly, this is the 3rd couple whose due date is right before our wedding.  I'm happy for them all, but at the same time, I'm rather disappointed because, at a minimum, that is another 8-12 people that won't be attending that I am very close to.  (And in the case of this aunt and uncle, we only really got to see them when they were visiting my elderly grandmother, but now that she's passed away, they won't be getting out here much, if at all. So I was very much looking forward to seeing them again since they said they would be there.)

We were trying to make the wedding small and intimate (around 100-120 people), but now i'm afraid it wont even be 100.  Which would be ok, but we each have 5 attendants.  I'm not going to ask anyone to step down of course, but I just hope it won't look too strange to have over 10% of the guest list standing at the front and so few people sitting down.  

Sorry about the pathetic vent, its a little disappointing and I feel so guilty about feeling this way over such a happy occasion.  Normally I would just vent to FI for 3 mins. and be fine, but he's away this week (& next) for his new job, and my close friends have been MIA ever since we selected our attendants, so I don't feel as if I have anyone to vent to.  So thanks for letting me vent here.

jbrook12

I totally understand where you are coming from. My cousion's wife is due with their 2nd baby on March 7th, our wedding is the 10th. I just have a feeling that my aunt, uncle and his 3 siblings will skip the wedding to see the baby. But I keep in mind that due dates are a guessing game that she could have the baby anytime before or after that date.

It will all work out, in the grand scheme of things at you wedding you won't remember everyone who is there. All that will matter will be the fact that you just married the man of your dreams.

arrestclementine

I totally feel where you are coming from.  LIke jbrook said you never know they just may have the baby earlier and still be able to make it to the wedding. 

As for the WP - I was actually thinking about something similar last night.  Like almost felt bad for even asking people to spend money to be in my wedding. But at the end of the day if even know one besides your WP shows up - you still asked them for a reason and they obviously wanted to be a part of the wedding so I don't think it will matter and I highly doubt anyone will even notice!

ralbro

I feel your pain! My brother was supposed to play guitar for the ceremony, but his GF got pregnant and is due 4 days before the wedding. UGH. So obviously they won't be coming to the wedding in FL from TN!! My sister, who is also a BM, is going to be 7 1/2 months pregnant at the wedding too. I keep joking with my other girls that no one else is allowed to get pregnant until after the wedding!!! Haha. All in good fun. 

But I totally get where you're coming from. I don't handle disappointment well, but I've had several months of prep for my brother. It sucks that you JUST found out and the wedding is getting so close. So don't feel bad about feeling bad, I think we've all been through it!

As far as the WP - I agree that I've never noticed any imbalance with the guest to WP ratio. So try not to add that worry to your plate! :-)

rebeccaa12

Same boat. There was a pretty big fallout on my FIs side of the family and my family is split and akward due to my parents' divorce. Plus my officiant who is my cousin is in the middle of a high risk pregancy and due days before. I really should be looking for a new one

But anyway, I stress about this all the time. I'm like WTF...a year ago our guest list was an exciting thing to think about. Now I just freak the hell out....

Yea, don't worry about WP for sure. Cmac gave some good advice, that I should take in as well...even 50 people will be overwhelming! Funny bc even at birthday parties I host with around 40 people...I end up briefly sayign helllo to like, 15 people!!

Hope this helps! Cheer up We got a WEDDING to plan!!!