So I'm getting married in a Catholic church and when fiance & I first picked the date the priest asked us if we wanted just a ceremony or the full mass. At the time I didn't know the difference so I just said a full mass. After speaking to a few more people in the church the only difference is communion is given in the full mass and not in the ceremony. Well the communion adds on about and extra 15-20 minutes to the whole thing so I called the priest and asked him is he could change it to just a ceremony. The priest was totally ok with this and said whatever my FI and I wanted was fine. I want it to be shorter bc honestly I don't want to have to kneel sit stand kneel again in my dress for communion and I want more time for picture taking after. Probably doesn't make me the best Catholic in the world but oh well lol.
On to the problem...my parents are furious now that FI & I will not be having a full mass. Like really?? We're still getting married in a Catholic church by a priest which was very important to them and I was totally fine with agreeing to. Everyday my father is calling me asking if I've called the priest back and told him to switch it back to a full mass. I don't want to hurt my parent's feelings but I don't want a full mass. I don't want to sit through it (again probably not a very Catholic thing to say) & I don't want to make my guest sit through it. I told my parents very politely FI & I do not want the full mass. Their response "What are people going to think?? What are your grandparents going to think?" I didn't think this would be such an issue. I'm still getting married in the Catholic church why can't that be good enough. I really want to say if you want communion so bad go to mass on Sunday and get it!!
How would you guys deal with this? I don't want to upset my parents and I really don't care what people will think. And now I have to deal with this a month before the wedding?!