FI talked things over with his boss. The biggest problem is not the demands of the people he works for but the client's demands. The company would have no problem with him taking time off to get married but for the time constraints to secure this particular client and finish the project. He will have to travel out of the country some and it can be unpredictable as to when. He doesn't have to take it but the immediate financial benefits combined with the future $$ benefits are much more important to our future than this one day. (sigh) Especially with the economic climate the world seems to be in. However his boss has approved a signing bonus of sorts that would cover much of whatever deposits we would lose to vendors (which I'm working on figuring out) and even told him if the amount is high to show receipts and he would try to help with it. So even though it is a really difficult thing for us to do we are moving everything back to next spring. (no date set yet of course) I've been contacting vendors and some are understanding and reasonable while others not so much. Thank you to everyone here that has lended so much support and wisdom.