Ok so Bridal shower question...
I am having a small wedding party just the MOH & BM (wedding of about 60 guests)
My MOH is my BFF & SIL and I have known her since I was 18 & for 18 years lol
My brother (also the BM) is out of work and i don't what all the weight of my wedding on her shoulders.. she wont take any $ from me but is ok with me helping with the shower.. my work BFF says this is a no no I should just pass over the guest list and be surprised... any thoughts? i know tradition is one thing but reality is another