Okay, so I know this probably belongs on the maids and moms board, but they are mean, so I'm gonna start here.
Let me start by saying, yes, I know it's early to choose my bridal party, however, I have two sisters and he has two, and I would never heard the end of it from my mother and his if chose not to have all 4 of them in the wedding, so my wedding party is actually pretty well set for me.
On that note, my BM and FSIL is living with a guy (who will also be a GM) who has two girls from a previous marriage. His younger daughter will be 7 by the time FI and I get married and we have been thinking of asking her to be the FG. I want to include as much of his family as possible since they all live further away than my family and I really want to kind of keep things even, so to speak.
Well, when airing this idea to my FMIL, the first words out of her mouth were "well what about Isa?" (FSIL's BF's other daughter.) Now, granted, I understand her concern, but I tried to explain to her that it's not necessary for me to include both girls as part of the ceremony. Which she agreed with, but then responded with, "that's okay, if you don't make her part of the wedding party, I'll buy her a pretty dress so she can feel special on that day too."
Am I crazy to let this bother me? Part of it stems from the fact that these girls, while adorable, sweet and lovable, are not actually family. They have their own biological parents and grandparents, yet my FMIL treats them like she will never have bother grandchild (which she will, if everything goes well). I guess this is mostly a vent, but I wonder what you guys would do in this situation, because honestly, I'm considering not having either of the girls in the wedding because of the way my FMIL is reacting.
