Hi all.
I just got engaged last month and I'm thinking gowns. I have MS so it's unlikely I'm going to fit in the kind of exercise I need in order to lose a lot of weight by the wedding. I'm 225 lbs. and size 16. I'm very busty (DDD) and I have big, curly hair.
However, if there's one dream I want for myself at my wedding, it's that I look light. By light I don't mean skinny or slim or anything like that. I mean I want to sort of look like I'm walking on air (because that's how I'll feel!). It's very hard for me to walk/run/jump/etc so I'd like to have pictures of at least one day when that doesn't seem to be the case.
I want a dress that makes me look as long as possible and I want an updo with natural-looking tendrils. Obviously, I want something like a chiffon with a flattering, minimizing bust. Maybe an a-line...I don't know. Sometimes I really like satin because it flows like water, but then I think maybe lace, where the sun can poke through, is a better idea.
We're having a beach wedding so no long trains and I don't want anything too poofy where sand can hide.
The problem is I know nothing about what makes a woman like me look her best. I don't know what kind of a dress would look best on me. Sleeves or no sleeves? White or off-white? Corset top? Length? Lowness of back?
What do you think?
Re: How to look light
Last Sept. (my wedding was 9-29) I weighed 155 Lbs. I am VERY busty, I wear a 38G. When I initially went dress shopping, I thought a strapless sweetheart ballgown would be the best for me since it's what the bridal magz recommended. Well I hated how strapless looked. I have pretty broad shoulders so it just emphasized them. I ended up wearing a halter satin A-line gown and I felt beautiful the day of my wedding.
I get what you're trying to say. You'll look stunning in the right dress. Keep your options open and try on as many styles as possible.
For example, I am also very busty (38H) and about a size 16, and I was SURE I wanted something blingy and a halter and a little poofy. Well, every halter I tried on looked horrible on me. I was shocked, because I routinely wear halter tops/dresses. I ended up with a somewhat understated chiffon A-Line, strapless dress.
So, you just never know until you start trying things on, and see how they feel on you.
here is my dress:
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
In this short time, I feel so much better and less bloated and overall healthy and lighter.
I'd like to lose at least 20 more in the next 7 months and I don't think it'll be an issue.
My mother lost 40 lbs by just changing her eating habits!
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
I wouldnt worry about it. You're going to be beautiful in your gown anyway. If you're floating on cloud 9 because you're so happy that day, everyone will notice!
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
[QUOTE]My BIGGEST dream for my wedding ever since I was a little girl was that the wedding wouldn't matter. I want to have a wedding, but I don't care much about the details. I'm so in love with this man, we could be in a swamp during a hailstorm for our wedding and I'd still run down the asile to marry him. It would still be the happiest day of my life. If my dress makes me look like the stay-puffed marhmellow man, it couldn't put a damper on that day. Still, since I have the option, that's one of the details that I'd like to attempt to get right.
Posted by Laurarara[ /QUOTE]
That's beautiful! I told FI I love him so much I'd live in a shoebox if we had to (while we were looking for a house, unsuccesfully at the time). It's amazing to feel that way about someone.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
You don't need to lose weight! You will look beautiful no matter what you wear. As long as you FEEL beuatiful and have the love for your husband on that day, you will be flosting. I lovw what you just posted too, about the swamp and hailstorm!
I too have mobility issues and stressed for months about my dress, then when I finally went shopping I fell in love with one and my first thought was, "I feel skinny!" I am so happy with it. I think that if you find the right dress, you WILL feel like you are floating and amazing. Let the women at the bridal shop help you, they are very good at knowing what looks best on people for their shape and size.
Post a picture when you find it!!
My family owns a bridal shop. My mother will say that the perfect dress is the one that makes you feel like a bride. I felt fat in the first 5 dresses I tried on. Then, she pulled out the one she had envisioned on me and I was like....hey..I have a figure!....and one made me feel really great and that's all I wanted to feel.
She was proud of heself for picking the winning dress...but then again, this is also her job...so I'll echo how a dress shop can assist here
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
Ballroom dance dresses don't have a lot of boning and the fabric isn't very forgiving. You will be able to see every lump and bump.
I encourage you to go try dresses on. Looking at photos online is great and gives you ideas, but you won't know what you like until you've seen it on your body.
If you are looking for something more modest and without a train, consider some of DavidsBridal's simple plus size gowns:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Halter-Chiffon-A-Line-with-Center-Front-Draping-BR1016_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Size-Plus-Sizes
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_One-Shoulder-Mesh-Gown-with-Beaded-Waist-EJ2M2626_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Size-Plus-Sizes
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Floral-Burnout-Chiffon-Gown-859695D_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Size-Plus-Sizes
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Chiffon-Gown-with-High-Slit-and-Halter-Tie-Back-WG3482_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Size-Plus-Sizes
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/