So since I was a baby, I have been passed between my mom and dad's families for holidays, since they divorced when I was a year old. Thanksgiving was never a problem because we do Thanksgiving Day with my maternal grandmother and family and then the Saturday following, my paternal grandmother does dinner.
Now that we have to split time between FIL and my family, its trickier. But last year, FMIL had Thanksgiving dinner for her family the weekend before so I did things as I normally do with my family.
Apparantly, and without my knowledge, FMIL had another dinner on Thanksgiving for her husbands side of the family and was pissed that I didn't attend and went on to bad mouth me to my FI. (This women hates my guts anyway.)
My darling FI stood up for me and I thought that was that. Well now, I'm barely acknowledged by FMIL and not ever invited for anything, but heard from future SIL that the bashing on me has begun again. Although she does plan on inviting me for T-day dinner, I don't want to go. FI will be working so I will have no buffer and will probably say some things I regret. I plan on doing things as I always have, rather than put myself in that situation.
Any thoughts?
PS. I normally would have no problem speaking my mind and not caring what anyone thinks, but future step daughter is staying with them until we can get a suitable place so she doesn't have to switch schools until we are settled. I'm at my parents and he is living with a friend. We don't need them filling her head full of any more ideas.