NWR Juicy Conversation

mancila60

This could be TMI and if so please let me know. You won't hurt my feelings.

What do you think about porn? Do you watch it? Do you mind your FI watching it? What are your thoughts on it all?

cinderellasjc

If porn is tastefully done,  it can be very erotic.  I tend to be a voyeur anyways... so porn does not bother me one bit.  FI is not really interested in it so it doesn't bother me when he does watch it.  I think if he watched it all the time, I would be a little concerned.

BubbsNBubbs

Porn doesn't bother me at all. We watch it together sometimes....I know he watches it without me.  It doesn't bother me at all.  I know and accept that he is going to "hang out with his other girlfriend Vasil" as in vaseline. LOL.

I have also learned that when he hangs out with vasil during the day, our sexytime is much longer.  Sometimes too long...LOL.

KJeffs

I am a very shy person so I get embaresed when he wants to know if I like what we are watching.....but I do like to watch, depends on what is is though. I think I would be hurt if he watched it all the time with out me, sometimes is ok, I know I have with out him, but it is Way more fun together....lol I guess I am a voyeur too

Nindakay

Opposite opinion.  I do not believe that porn is right, and think it shouldn't be made at all.  I would take issue with my FI watching it, and see it as something that could cause problems in our relationship.  Fortunately, he feels the same way. 

FYI - not judging.

entropicbeauty

I don't really care. Porn can be sexy or it can just be stupid. If FI is into it, it doesn't bother me at all. I tend to not enjoy the ones where you can obviously tell the woman is faking it and/or not having a good time though...or the ones that take themselves WAY too seriously (which end up just being funny usually)...

mancila60

I have no problem with it. I watch it actually more than FI does. He used to watch it but then we moved in together and there was no need to watch it for him. However my sex drive is different than his. I would like it more than he would (trust me he wants it a lot) 

I will also say that if he watched it constantly and it became addictive or causing issues like him wanting me a certain way OR not being interested in me anymore then I would have problems with it.

Gabrielle76

I think it's pretty gross. Sex is a private thing, and not something I want to see. To me, "forsaking all others" includes not watching other women have sex/whatever else. FI respects and honors my opinion. I don't judge people who watch it, I just never want it in my life, or my relationship.,

BubbsNBubbs

My sister felt very much the same as PP's not liking it.  I really think it's just a matter of taste....like most things in this life. Different strokes for different folks, ya know?

Now if our sexytime was less because of a porn habit, I would DEF had a big problem with it. 

I also know that when I was at a point in my life where I was not really comfortable with sex or sexytime I was not into the porn at all then.  I was also much younger and very naive about sex in general at that time.  NOT SAYING that's what PP's issue is, just saying how it was for me.

It also allows me to get an idea of things that my honey likes without having to just ask him.  I can also show him things that I like, but may not have the gumption to ask for.  Or maybe I didn't know I really liked something until I saw it on TV. 

I also feel the same about strip clubs.  I don't mind if he goes....just don't make it rain up in there with OUR money.  I also don't have any issues with the fact that those girls are not exactly the same body style as me.  I figure if my man REALLY wanted a skinny girl, he wouldn't be with me.

cinderellasjc

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[QUOTE]My sister felt very much the same as PP's not liking it.  I really think it's just a matter of taste....like most things in this life. Different strokes for different folks, ya know? Now if our sexytime was less because of a porn habit, I would DEF had a big problem with it.  I also know that when I was at a point in my life where I was not really comfortable with sex or sexytime I was not into the porn at all then.  I was also much younger and very naive about sex in general at that time.  NOT SAYING that's what PP's issue is, just saying how it was for me. It also allows me to get an idea of things that my honey likes without having to just ask him.  <strong>I can also show him things that I like, but may not have the gumption to ask for.</strong>  Or maybe I didn't know I really liked something until I saw it on TV.  I also feel the same about strip clubs.  I don't mind if he goes....just don't make it rain up in there with OUR money.  I also don't have any issues with the fact that those girls are not exactly the same body style as me.  I figure if my man REALLY wanted a skinny girl, he wouldn't be with me.
Posted by BubbsNBubbs[/QUOTE]

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BubbsNBubbs

I will have to check that out. Thanks!

Grits8812

Eh, I don't mind that he watches it when he does.  I know he did a lot when he was single. Not like, addiction a lot, but more like "i dont have anyone to do it with, so i gotta do what i gotta do". 

I do know that when he watches it he doesn't watch the tacky, almost abusive ones.  He is pretty tasteful, doesn't go for the completely fake looking ones. 

As for me, we have ended up watching it after we both had a few too many, but other than that it never interested me.

egeurts

I don't care that FI watches it.

Personally, I'm not into it. I'm not really a visual person, and I much prefer to read erotica and let my imagination take over. That does way more for me than any videos or pictures of other people. 

thedivav

Not my cup of java but he likes it As long as it does not become an issue I have no prob with it

TheFutureMrsB81

I don't like it and I think it could be a problem in a marriage. FI got rid of his "porn box" when we got together. If he needs porn instead of me, then there is a BIG BIG problem somewhere. I'm pretty against porn due to the fact that women should not be seen like that.

Nindakay

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[QUOTE]I don't like it and I think it could be a problem in a marriage. FI got rid of his "porn box" when we got together. If he needs porn instead of me, then there is a BIG BIG problem somewhere.<strong> I'm pretty against porn due to the fact that women should not be seen like that.</strong>
Posted by TheFutureMrsB81[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Agree!  And I just have to wonder what kind of self esteem those women (and men) have.  I think it's kinda sad....</div>

BubbsNBubbs

I completely disagree.  Porn is about FANTASY....not reality.  I would be willing to bet that MOST people know the difference.  Men understand that the things that are done in "films" are just that...a film.  Not real life.  And to say that "women should not be seen like that" is just silly.  I LIKE to be seen like that....when I am at home having sexytime with my Bubbs.  I HOPE that he looks at me and thinks dirty thoughts that he then wants to act out and involve me in. 

Like I said previously...the issue would be when it INTERFERS with OUR sexytime or my needs not being met.

That's like saying that we as women should not be watching things like the "Notebook" because that gives us false idea of what men should act like. 

If you make your man get rid of his "porn box"...trust me...that doesn't stop him from fantasizing and playing the skin flute every now and then. Are you saying that you don't allow your FI to pleasure himself?  What's the difference if the sexytime slide show is on his PC screen or in his mind's eye????

random4180

It's not my thing- never actually have seen any but whatever, lol. I know he watches it sometimes and I'm fine with that since I know he loves me and my body more than any other woman. He's never rude about it, it's not when I'm around, he knows it's not something I'm interested in and honestly, since we were both virgins when we met, I think it helped him get some ideas for things to try which helped us BOTH have awesome snuggle time! Too each his/her own, I suppose.

And Bubbs, I totally HATE the Notebook, hah! I absolutely don't get the appeal of it; FI and I have actually bonded over our dislike of it...

BubbsNBubbs

I'm wondering why my previous post disagreeing with some folks got removed? Things that make you go hmmmmm.....

random4180

It's TK...mine disappeared too