Ugh! I don't know if anyone remembers my "aunt" from previous posts, but she seems to be rearing her ugly head again and doesn't want to go down peacefully. Just around the time of my sister's wedding 7 years ago, my aunt and I had a falling out. She was being her usual, self-centered, obnoxious self and wouldn't apologize for the way she treated me the weekend of my sister's shower. So I told my father (it's his sister; he's 12 years older than her) that I could no longer deal with her anymore and I was sorry, but I just didn't want to visit with her anymore. He accepted that and made a special trip to explain to his sister how she had finally managed to alienate all the women in my dad's family (my mother and sister had given up on her YEARS earlier, as had my other aunt). On my grandmother's deathbed, 3 years ago, my grandmother finally told her daughter to get the hell out and leave her alone (we'd been waiting forever for that to happen-- yes, my aunt really is just that horrid to people who try to love her). My grandmother put up with more crap from this woman than I'd ever imagine possible. But even after 50+ years, she had had enough.About 3 months ago, my aunt asked my dad if he thought it was possible for her to return to the family. He sat down with my sister and me (we didn't even bother to include my mom) and discussed it. After asking the crucial question of my dad "Do you think there's hope she'll ever change?" my dad said no. And he admitted that the only reason he even deals with her himself (despite how much she idolizes him), is out of respect for their mother. Sooo..... my cousin (my aunt's oldest son, who has pretended to be asleep in the past to avoid dealing with his mother), text messaged me yesterday to ask if he could talk to me today about the wedding and the conversation we all had recently about his mom.He hasn't called me today, so I have no idea what's going on and therefore may be jumping to conclusions, but if my aunt--after promising not to put my cousins in the middle of this-- has made him feel obligated to choose between my wedding and her (I haven't invited her obviously), I am going to lose my sh*t. Seriously. What the heck?!? Why would you even WANT to come to my wedding if you've accused me of being mentally unstable?!? Why would you mess with your family-- and then think you could claim that you're above reproach for any wrongdoing?!?AUGHHHH!!!!I hate drama. I hate immaturity. I do not suffer fools gladly. I have no patience for this. I'm not my grandmother. *sigh*
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